I hate my stepson w/ a passion! His

Step son is 21 and a psychopath! He has threatened me , attacked me , swore at me and his dad does nothing but give him "talks". He is such a weird kid who acts like hes still 15 . He manipulates and constantly lies to everyone , tells morbid stories to disturb people. I never thought I would say I hate a kid but I do!

I can totally relate! Im ready to leave my partner over his 12 yr old son. He is violent towards our toddler and my 12 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. These "talks" do nothing

Sounds just like my as he's a little ** and I hate him I'm at the stage where I will file for divorce because his dad always puts him first tbh if I knew now 31 mths ago I'd have never got married

My step son is an absolute little **. He's 12 and i absolutely despise him!!! He spends 5days with us and then the weekend with his ** head dad. Words cannot describe how much I can't stand his ** attitude. He's nothing but a lazy little **. His mum knows I hate him and it causes tension between us all the time . I often think of leaving but we have two children together and to be honest though, why should I leave just because of this bell end! I'm so glad I found this site , made me feel better knowing I'm not alone on this. I cannot wait for the day when this ** head leaves my home!!!!!

I feel your pain! Same boat. I don’t leave b cause we have two kids together.

I'm in the same situation it drives me crazy because we have 2 kids of our own but I just can't do this anymore with my step son I don't fee happy

Right there with you. My stepson has stolen credit cards, gotten suspended from school, been getting in trouble on the internet and who knows what else. He disrespects me constantly and his father has put him above me since day one. Constantly I'm being reprimanded about talking too "harshly" to this spoilt bratt. He has everything under the f****** sun while my two daughters have every penny counted that is spent on them. This kid gets to go to multiple events a year because that's what him and his dad have always done. I never have taken my girls to any such thing since I married this man three years ago. I have come to hate my stepson because he's so disrespectful, his mother is lazy and has let him get away with everything and so has his dad, I'm thrown on the back burner along with my daughter's, and I don't know if there's any fixing this. There's many other issues in my marriage but this is one of the biggest. I sympathize with you. I don't know how to fix it other than get rid of the b****** and revel in freedom! It's starting to sound amazing to me!

I too have a stepson whom I find irritating to the extreme. He is 28 and moved in to our home in April. He is a nice enough man but I find his personal habits loathsome. He smokes, and we don't, ok I can deal with that, I thought! No smoking indoors, so he smokes outside and drops his cigarette trash in my garden! He never washes his hands after visiting the bathroom, leaves a mess in our kitchen after preparing food, dirty dishes and spills. His room smells of, well I don't know what!! when you walk into the house a smell of dirtiness hits you coming from his room. His room is full of empty food packets and dirty dishes. My home is not a spotless house that you are afraid to relax in, but I do have certain standards that I like to keep.
The other day I took a shower and found he had trimmed his beard and it was all over the tub and wash hand basin, at that point I flipped after crying and shouting at my husband I locked myself in the bathroom and thought " Can I put up with this?"
Yes I have spoken to my husband, often, in his eyes his son can do no wrong. He tidies up after him, and turns a blind eye to all his dirty habits. I do not know what to do

Divorce the **!!

I totally feel you. My stepson who is 21 by the way. Came to live with us this past June. Why you ask. Because he was kicked out of the MArine Corps. And to top it off, he's lying to his family in California, they all think he's still in the MArines. His plan is to hide out here in NEw Mexico with me and his dad and then go back to MArtinez, CA as the returning war hero next MAy. Which would have been the end of his enlistment. I fantasize about calling his mom and telling her everything, but that would bite me in the **. If she knew the truth I don't think she would let him come back home. I ** hate this kid. HE's an entitled, egotistical,smug, smirking, manipulative **. I can't wait until he leaves

Thanks everyone, reading the initial post & comments in response has given me perspective, my situation could be a lot worse. Stepson (SS) has many of the qualities others have described: lies, epic laziness, selfish, manipulative, pot-addict. Good points: kind & loving to animals, babies/children, and elderly people; great taste in music; and a happy disposition. SS was happy to get to live with us & escape his evil female parent (EFP) 3 years ago, she's a raging manic-depressive beyotch with unresolved issues. Her older son, SS's half-brother, is 23 & a full-time addict drug dealer homeless couch-surfer, thanks to her parenting. SS is 16, I love him and am grateful I don't hate him, however I loathe and 100% HATE being lied to & disrespected. I've been struggling with resentment against this kid who lived thru so much bullsh*t when with EFP, who taught SS that the way to navigate life is by lying, being lazy & manipulating others into doing stuff he should/could do for himself. I love him very much and am grateful we were able to get him out of the nightmare of living with EFP (who tried her evil pathetic lying best to get out of paying child support with lies but that backfired and her support order amount got increased & her wages are being garnished!), and pray that we can help him overcome the bad behaviors learned from her. It's very painful to live with, and I can tell from all the other comments here on this topic that I'm not alone in the pain, anger & resentment this situation has brought. I love my SS and don't want to give up on him, but I can see I have to step back from the situation to focus on taking care of myself so I don't totally burn out and get so deep in resentment & anger that I start hating him.

I have to confess, I feel the same way. No one knows it (maybe my mom bc I think she too feels similar about my SS). SS is 12 now, but I met him when he was 6. At first, I was idealistic and went into the situation with rose colored glasses...really had no ill will of any kind. We didn't live near him (my husband moved to be closer to me). Reality hit when I found out he was begging DH to move back. Which is what we did. Perhaps that's why I resent him so. I left my job, family, etc. We have 50% custody and I thought living week in and week out with him, that I would eventually grow to love him. After 3+ years of living with him, I think the opposite is true. I can't stand him. The weeks he's with us, I grit my teeth to get through them. When he steps out the door and I know I won't see him for a week...let's just say my insides explode with joy. I have no affection for him. I do treat him kindly and civil, I even force the occasional hug for his sake...but internally I have no desire to interact with him. DH is my soulmate, so I have continued in the thought that a lifetime with DH is worth a few years of living with his son. Really, I'm just trying to surpass this "season" until he is grown and we can move away again.

I feel the same way. I have been with my husband for 9 years and I tried my very best to have a relationship with him but he's just an ingrate lazy **! He is a slob and doesn't respect the rules of our house! He wants prAises but is so lazy to do something to earn it. I am disgusted with the fact that my husband says he's just too tired to reprimand him. He says i always sweat about small things and is so not easy going. I have a daughter of my own and reprimands her accordingly. And i am so frustrated at the fact that instead of doing the chores himself, this airhead stepson of mine would pass on yhe responsibility to my daughter! I have to make peace with myself and acceptvthe fact that i do not like him!

Haha you dumb **. Married a women with children.
All you ** deserve it.

I spend my days making my step father miserable. ** him and all step fathers.
You all ** deserve it. Bunch of alcoholic and drug-addled low-lifes that got their ** snipped off, and are now so feminized, you raise the children of other men while your new wife carries your ** around in her purse.

Thats step dads for you.
You deserve all the shame, misery, and ruin you brought down on your own weak ** heads. Sincerely

- Step sons everywhere.

Die spawn

Thats because your a typical worthless piece of trash. A selfish idiot just like your father. Karma will catch up to you. ** moron

Spoken like a true **

Fail troll is bad

I must say you or should I say your attitude projects and immature uneducated lost soul. What you said in your post actually makes me have pity for you.

Go die

If I never saw my stepson again it would be too soon. I'm sorry you have this awful being in your life. I know I wish my stepson would just stop coming around.

I have a stepson who 17,his mother and I have been married almost 6 years. My issue started out when he was 12 and he was telling his mom you said you would never get married again. He's an only child and while quite smart he's lazy, his mother waits on him hand and foot , she picks up after him , and one moment will treat him like an adult and the next moment treat him like a child. She cooks his food washes his clothes cleans up after him makes excuses for him, that's the child part. Treats him like an adult by buying him alcohol took his girlfriend to Planned Parenthood to get on the birth control. And lets him and his girlfriend have ** in his bedroom while she's watching TV in the living room. I've been told what he does is none of my business and I have no say in his raising at all. His very first job he was making $9.50 an hour, not bad for a 17-year-old. He decided he was bored and walked off the job . We had a cell phone plan for three phones one for each of us. His cell phone was totally free, he decided hey I've got a job I want my own phone. So while were in a contract for that third phone he goes out and gets a Nother phone . And tells us here's your phone back you're stuck with it now pay it off, and then walks a off the job we now are paying for two phones that he has or had. He talked to his mom into buying him a Xbox one even though he had an Xbox 360, A Nintendo Wii , A DS three, and one of those Nintendo cubes, with the promise he would make payments on it from his job which of course he walked off of .

Same guy here: he also has to forced to take a shower or brush his teeth, he was really rude to his grandmother, and when I told him he needed to never talk to his grandmother that way again he reach back to hit me with a stick I grabbed his arm he told me " let go of my arm , old man I'm going to kick your **" I told his mother you need to have him apologize to his grandmother and to me. His mother's response was well you shouldn't of assaulted my little boy. The kid is 17 , 6 feet tall and weighs close to 300 pounds. His mother buys them alcohol like I said earlier and lets his friends come over and get drunk at our house while we're out of town Ian's I don't find out about it and tell were on our trip out of town. His friends of stole from us and we don't know which one and they don't say anything to his friends about it I'm waiting for something Aminda disappear and then the ** going to hit the fan. Part of me thinks it will get better now that he is turned 18. Part of me thinks it will just get worse. Like I said he walked off of the best job he'll probably ever get and he's not really looking too hard for replacement. Meanwhile someone has to pay that phone bill and someone has to pay for that Xbox. Also his mother in her stupidity got him a gas card for his car and now we're paying for gas for him to run his friends around pick him up take him to and from school to and from their jobs.

So sorry to hear problems with your step son, I have a step son age 11, their such terrible kids. After reading your story, my heart goes out to you, honestly if I were you I kick him out of house, tell him to smarten, if he can't get his act together. Having Adhd must be diffcult weather your a parent or child suffering with it and for your wife to treat her son like a child and adult, she must be going through quilt of some kind to appease her son, don't know why. She's doing more damage to her son and setting him up for failure by not letting him be accounable for his actions and letting him run the place like he sees fit. I would asked her if she had a daughter would she let her run her life even is she didn't had adhd.

I have a 16 year old ** S.O.B. stepson that is almost identical to yours. He is the biggest piece of ** to walk this earth! The ** got in trouble with the law several times, and has tried and succeeded in ruining the relationship i have with his mother. For years i have tried not to hate him but he always find a way for me and everyone else to wish him dead. He doesn't have a girlfriend, i think he is gay and he's the reciever in his same ** relationship. He never helps out around the house but always has his rude hand out for money. Even his teachers hate him, he has never really had any consequences for anything he has done wrong his whole life. His motherhad a talk with him about how he should be punished.(she is such a ** idiot) i hope he dissappears and never returns. One day i hope he gets caught breaking the law (which he does all the time) and stays there forever.

I hear yah

Ooooooh, I truly feel your pain. Mine is a worthless piece of **, and Im starting to hate his enabling father too.

Wow,ive raised my stepson since the age of 3 now hes 22 and for the past 6 years its been mayham in our home he went to the police and spread lies about me which got dyfus involved cuz i got 2 daughters with his mom and he tld the cops that we dnt pay any attention to him at all only to the girls he dont shower or brush his grill he ** around the toilet not in it he wnt wash a dish his dog makes a mess and i come home and hav to clean it he manipulates his mom he eats all the food he instgates fights and everyone tells me it looks like hes in love with his mother,we tell him to find a mate woman or man whatever his preference and he says he dnt need a girlfriend cuz he got his mom!!! Idk what to think i just wish hed disapear and leave us b happy,sad to say but his energy stinks and im tired of his bs

This piece of ** reminds me of my step son. ** can't stand him. Best of luck to you

Thank you for posting this. I feel the same way.

I can not stand my girlfriends two boys. They are so weird that when I first met them I thought they were mentally handicapped or had some disorder. But she says they are great kids and that they act like this because they are TWICE gifted???? I don't know about that to me they are spoiled brats with no respect for anyone or anything. The oldest boy 13 follows his mother everywhere she goes, she and I never get a moment to ourselves and if I say anything she yells at me and says that I can not discipline them because they have a father I'm suppose to be there friend. He is with his dad for a week and with us for a week but his brother 12 stays with us full time because his own father cant stand him. We want to get married but I think if we do it won't last because of her sons. I get physically ill when he comes over. Him not believing in a higher being (GOD) doesn't help our relationship either. I don't know what to do but I'm sure someone out there is going through the same thing. Any advice?

Run like **!

Twice gifted means they have some sort of learning disability or disability, but it also couples with an extreme giftedness in some/one area. Look up Debrowski's work and other articles on "twice-exceptional" they have two exceptions- one needing special education often for their issues (and exception to normal/typical schooling), and are exceptional in the fact that they exceed in some area. So you're instinct about them having a disorder was right on.

Get the ** out of that ** family

Twice gifted usually refers to a gifted child with a disorder such as add, gad, or autism

I wouldn't wanna be friends with garbage kids like that.

So do I and I feel terrible but I just can't help it

This is continuation of So sorry to hear problems with your step son: I have 19 year old, I admit I let him walk over me, not in he way your step son is. I baby him for so long, i did his laundry and clean his room and basically be mamas boy. My boyfriend said let him grow up he's not a child anymore, I'm doing more harm than good by enableing him. He's right he's not going to live with us forever he will evenutally move out and pay his own bills. He's right we got to teach him responsible with his money not take me for granted, he do well out there and not expect others to pick up the slacks. My bf told him he has to contributie to this household, we increase his rent: 3 of us are working fulltime, we live in low income housing base on 30%. I'm glad my bf spoke up maybe angily at my son, cus my son wasn't paying enough to help us pay to keep this place afloat. I was single mom for many years doting on him. I can't do that as much, he's still living at home, mind you he works full time, he's quiet paitent but can be lasy to clean up his room. I told him I'm not cleaning up his room anymore or doing his laundry, since working full time this summer. Concerning your step son, there is place agengies that help out, conunselling, maybe workshop. My bf has Adhd and was never medicate, his son takes med helps him focus and less distraction. Tell your wife she's doing more harn and not doing justise for her son, she's actually helping him to destroy his life, he doesn't need to be baby, he needs structure, focus, someone who's strong like yourself. You need to let her see whats it doing to all you. Really what parent provide boozes to their teens? Let her think her choices in how he's raising isn't helping out and she needs to get same page as you. Comfort her, tell her you love her and if you didn't care you won't say nothing, but you do. Good luck.

I have the same issue. I hate my girlfriends teenage son. He is a spoiled brat and respects knowone and his father encourages it.

I feel your pain! I boyfriend has a 14-year-old son and a 17-year-old daughter who lived with their mother in another State when we started dating 6 years ago. Last year, both kids came to live with us FULL TIME. That said, I absolutely can't stand my stepson! I am literally physically repulsed by him. He has really poor hygiene and would go indefinitely without brushing his teeth or showering if he could get away with it. His rooms smells horrid, and I want to gag when I go passed it. He chews with his mouth open and will run his greasy fingers through his hair at the table. My boyfriend obviously loves his kids, and doesn’t see the issues that I see. When I mention the things that bother me, my boyfriend tells me to stop being so critical and to try and accept the child the way he is. The whole situation is causing me so much stress, because I really feel uncomfortable spending any time with this child who I find so repulsive!

Don't feel like your alone. My stepson doesn't take a bath but twice a week, is a real smart mouth and destroys everything everybody gives him. Turned down a paid college education to live with hood rats . He doesn't have any skills and is living in my rental house and lets a cat defacate all over the carpet with fried chicken and roaches in the floor. Please help me this kid won't even cut the grass. He's 23 years old.

My God... Sounds like my 17 y/o stepson. He is a real idiot. He has mommy issues since his mom left him for us to clean up the disaster she created. He always has this look on his face like he wants to say something smart, but he knows what will happen of he does. He is the nastiest human being I've ever met. He hoards food, has the worst table manners, and I have to remind him to wash his hands (did I mention he's 17?!?) He also craves attention and is jealous of my two little ones (ages 3 and 8). We are trying to teach him to be a man, but he is nothing but a wuss. His idol is Eminem (ugh!) so he thinks living in a trailer park is cool. We have a very nice suburban home and he has the whole upstairs to himself, and he has everything he needs, but he had rather live in a freaking garbage can with his mother. He thinks he is so cool, but he is a total lame **. He also has yellow teeth and bad breath because he won't brush regularly. Plain out nasty.

Yup. Know that one too. And when I tell mh step son to brush his teeth or to not skip leg excercise days at the gym, then I am verbally abusing him....

Thats a worthless sonofabitch!

OMG I am in the same boat. How do I keep my marriage when I will not live with my stepson. He returns soon from ** offender treatment and I can't stand the thought of living with him.

This how I feel about my step son he is a walking peace of work I think there was a quicky involved and ex forgot ** in her cxxt so she rub it in and stain the mattress. Hate my step son so bad I wish could send back up there so did exsit. Also when he with his dad he gets everything all sweets and ** before food and mc donads the kid only two years old. When goes over grand parents there do the same even gives him colds and flu because keep kissing him on the lips. They choose him over my real child any day. Tell you story when we found out my gf was pregnant they said If was not a boy they didnt want to know. I was like wtf I have beautiful daughter love very dear. The child is basically spoiled which I hate because they never get my daughter anything and when comes too looking after them they only want the step son because they dont have get up in the night and keep him quite they feed him loads yogurts I mean loads the fridge full up. Next day the kid ** like a whale sore ** the lot and he moans because we wont give him ** but real food home made. Well had guts full and gf she doesnt say much she just agrees like dead end.