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OK here's the deal. I'm a 40 something
OK here's the deal. I'm a 40 something male who has been visiting this site for a few years now, and I have to admit I do it mostly for the laughs. I do realize that there are a few people out there who have legitimate problems, problems that were caused by other people in their life. But that's life. Get a grip, for Christ's sake! It seems to me that most of you haven't had to do the hard thing. The hard thing is an experience that pushes you to the limits of your physical and mental ability. "That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not a cliche'. It's true. What I really want to do is call you a bunch of losers and whiners, but I was raised better than that. Well, okay, most of you are a bunch of losers and whiners. This must be a segment of society which I've had little exposure to. I've been around people who buckled down and got the job done when it had to be done. Parents who made me work my ** off as a kid, both at school and at home. Flown aircraft in combat. Friends that are achievers, associates that are professional in all they do. I imagine most of you didn't have that kind of exposure growing up or in your current situation. Kind of sad, I guess. Here's what you're missing out on - a complete life, loving wife and kids, all material needs met in spades (285K salary a year). No one gave me anything growing up. I busted my ** to get here. No amount of whining and blaming other people will get you anywhere in life. One must face the responsibility for one's actions, one gets the credit (and blame) for one's own actions. It's that simple.
I expect to catch a whole lot of ** for what I've said here, but you know what - I don't care. If someone reads this and decides to drag themselves out of whatever funk they're in and become a contributing member of society, then great. As for the rest of you, well, too bad.
This is not a site of all degenerates and losers, it is a place for regular people (such as yourself) to release some of the baggage they are carrying. Some people need the relief of confessing in order to move forward, or feel better about them selves. Also, this is a place where people who feel like they have no one can reach out anonymously, and maybe even get the extra push they need to get help. Are we all supposed to bow down to you because you have done so well for yourself or because you make a lot of money? You should reaching out to others if you feel have accomplished everything in your life. How much of that $285,000 goes to charity? My guess-$0! Oh and by the way, if we are all a bunch of losers and whiners, why are you confessing on here???? Since you are so much better than everyone else, why don't you find something better to do with your time?
no coments frm shrin?????
most people just go on this site to vent.
Everyone has the same chances as anyone else. You want something, stop whining about it and go get it. I agree with the OP - To all of those who are talking about what a hard life you had...Guess what...You aren’t the first and will not be the last to live a hard life. Stop blaming others, get up, and do something about it. You have the ability to do ANYTHING you want. Yes, anything! YOU are the one who has to put fourth the effort to do it. We all have one life. No re-overs…No second chances. This is it folks. Who do you want to be? Figure it out and be it. Who do you want your life to reflect? Figure it out and let your life shine. We all have a purpose here. Don't wait on life…You do that and you'll be 50 years old…and then where will you be? Do you want to be happy? Happiness is a choice. No one can make you feel anything – You get up and decide that you want to be happy and you be happy. Shine like the bright star you are and let goodness overflow. Our attitude on life shapes who we are today. Circumstances in life change us, but it is up to you if the change will be a positive one.
All together now......."How great thou art, How great thou art"
"just buckle down, and do what needs to get done".... I needed to hear that. Thanks!
To the original poster and the one who agrees with him:
I agree with you two whole heartedly. It's not the problems in our lives that make us who we are. It's the way we chose to deal with those problems. I have the same mind set as you do, thanks to my big brother who taught me me how to focus and strive for something better. Our lives were hard growing up but no one has a perfect childhood. Instead of letting life's hardships bring us down and confuse us we moved on, chalked it down as experience and used those hardships as stepping stones towards our goals. We've never lost sight of what we want and we never will. Our goal in life isn't to be millionaires all we want is to be the best we can be. That's what it's all about. Striving to be the best person you can be in all aspects of your life. Do the best you can in your career, be the best wife or husband you can be, be the best parent. Don't get me wrong I'm not on an ego trip. No one's perfect and that's the whole point, there's always room for improvement. Once you realize that you can always do a little better than you're doing right now...you'll start going somewhere in life.
And just for the record... I'm a 21 year old female
I had a really hard life too, endured lots of abuse and poverty. But I'd like to think that working my ** off in school and making the right choices helped me become successful today. We all have the ability to make CHOICES for ourselves. We can make choices that do not get us pregnant, or involved in self-destructive situations, like ** your sister's husband or whatever. A lot of the people here write like they are powerless to change their situation and like they are a victim of someone else's behavior. But they could choose to get out of the situation if they were brave enough, or be smart enough not to get in it in the first place. But then we wouldn't need a confession site! And that would be sad. This is better than TV!
"...And as for the distractions I'm not talking about flourishing relationships. I'm married and value my marriage greatly over my work. I'm talking about these dumb women and men who waste time on these no good partners and then want to blame them for their own failures.
Anyway good luck to you and I hope you wake up
And to the poster who said women should be in charge, thanks for the joke. It made my day."
The first and second person you directed those comments to are the same person. Me.
Also, "Poor, Stupid, Women. So emotional, so rash, so out of control. That's the reason women outnumber men 3 to 1 on this earth and still don't rull **.
Man Power!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I stated that women have a more compassionate, diplomatic approach to the world and thus should be in charge. You have proven my point. Thank you. Also, you can't spell. You will likely never even "rule" a household. So shut up and keep reading.
Original poster: You seem like a pretty stand-up guy. I hope I end up married to someone like you.
But I stand by the statement I made before. While financial security is certainly a nice thing, (not having to struggle or live paycheck-to-paycheck, having some money saved up), I am not a materialistic person and will never measure my success or career decisions in this way. However, the statements made were very motivational and I do enjoy a challenge, so I will probably take them to heart.
Poor, Stupid, Women. So emotional, so rash, so out of control. That's the reason women outnumber men 3 to 1 on this earth and still don't rull **.
Man Power!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you are such a manly man, what I wonder about is if your office door is big enough to allow your head to fit through or did it have to be modified to accomodate your massive ego. what a **
Ok I'm the guy who wrote "The original poster is right"
First of all I'm not judging anyone. I have no right to. And by no means was i any smarter or more gifted than anybody. I will admit that I've had some great people in my life (ie both of my parents) who have kept me straight and made sure I was sucessful but that's no excuse because there are people who have two loving parents and still don't make it. All I'm saying is comments like "I will never make 250k a year" is whining. If you say you'll never make that kind of money then you wont. Some of the richest people in the world don't have college degrees and they are not all athletes, rappers, or entertainers. All you need is a will to want to do something and the drive to make it happend. Your rent is certainly no excuse why you can't finish college. But college isn't for everybody. The ONLY difference between me, you, and the original poster is that we said we could be something in life and you said my circumstances won't allow me to be more that this. You put limitations on your self. I'm pretty sure you are a smart person and at the age of 21 there is no way your max earning potential is a mere 30k a year. My 60 year old mom went back to school and makes more money than that. All I'm saying stop thinking small and you wont be small
And as for the distractions I'm not talking about flourishing relationships. I'm married and value my marriage greatly over my work. I'm talking about these dumb women and men who waste time on these no good partners and then want to blame them for their own failures.
Anyway good luck to you and I hope you wake up
And to the poster who said women should be in charge, thanks for the joke. It made my day.
Original Poster: Wow. I generated a lot more comments than I thought I would. For those of you that stated "this is a confession site" I just want to say that yes, this is a confession site, but many, many people post comments as advice. My "confession" was a comment posted as a confession. I knew I'd catch **, so some of the above comments come as no suprise. I'm actually suprised at the number of people who agree with me - some partly and some more so. You know, no one would ever guess I make good money if they met me. The most expensive car I ever bought was under 30K. My house cost well under 300K. My wife handles all the money in the household. No pool. No affairs, no drama - my wife and I actually joke that maybe we should spread salacious rumors about ourselves in an effort "to keep up with the Jones'". People, it's possible - it's possible to have a good life with some work. Sometimes the work is hard. Sometimes your work isn't rewarded. Sometimes you get lucky. I got lucky getting the job I have now and I thank my lucky stars every time I think about it. I do have the necessary technical skills for my job, but I've been working on those for the last 20 years. My brothers are basically in the same position I'm in as well. I should add we had a single mom for quite a few years - she went back to school and became a teacher. No electricity, heat, etc. more than once. And to the girl above, who most of you seem to think is black - you seem to have, as we put it when I was in the military, "all of your ** in one bag". Meaning you're well on your way to a great life. Success will come with your attitude. You go girl. I believe, one day, someone will notice your competence, drive, and smarts and put you in a position to suceed beyond what you see possible today. It WILL happen. It may not happen when you want it to, but I think it will happen. Treat everyone with respect. Do the job you're given and do it to the best of your ability. I truly believe in karma, that what goes around comes around, and I feel that is has a lot to do with the job I'm in now. There were several people that wanted this job, and I really think I got it because I was known as a competent, nice guy that "plays well with others". And here I am. I certainly didn't always make a great salary (many years in the military) but all the years spent doing the right thing and demonstrating a decent work ethic and generally positive attitude have paid off. Lastly, I may have come off a little abrasive in the original post, but I stand by the comment - buckle down, accept the lemons, drive on - that will solve a lot of problems in life. I promise. Have a geat day.
Last poster again, again directed at "The original poster is right. Everybody talks about not having the same chances in life as this guy..."
I take it from your implication that you are black. Well, guess what: so am I. I think this little discussion goes to show how women are more compassionate and have a much more diplomatic way of approaching things. This is why we should be in charge of everything.
back to school fulltime****