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OK here's the deal. I'm a 40 something
OK here's the deal. I'm a 40 something male who has been visiting this site for a few years now, and I have to admit I do it mostly for the laughs. I do realize that there are a few people out there who have legitimate problems, problems that were caused by other people in their life. But that's life. Get a grip, for Christ's sake! It seems to me that most of you haven't had to do the hard thing. The hard thing is an experience that pushes you to the limits of your physical and mental ability. "That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not a cliche'. It's true. What I really want to do is call you a bunch of losers and whiners, but I was raised better than that. Well, okay, most of you are a bunch of losers and whiners. This must be a segment of society which I've had little exposure to. I've been around people who buckled down and got the job done when it had to be done. Parents who made me work my ** off as a kid, both at school and at home. Flown aircraft in combat. Friends that are achievers, associates that are professional in all they do. I imagine most of you didn't have that kind of exposure growing up or in your current situation. Kind of sad, I guess. Here's what you're missing out on - a complete life, loving wife and kids, all material needs met in spades (285K salary a year). No one gave me anything growing up. I busted my ** to get here. No amount of whining and blaming other people will get you anywhere in life. One must face the responsibility for one's actions, one gets the credit (and blame) for one's own actions. It's that simple.
I expect to catch a whole lot of ** for what I've said here, but you know what - I don't care. If someone reads this and decides to drag themselves out of whatever funk they're in and become a contributing member of society, then great. As for the rest of you, well, too bad.
To the guy who wrote "The original poster is right": I don't come on here to whine, in fact, I am probably one of the few people who has contributed a positive confession to this site, but nor do I come on here to judge. Good for you that you had the focus and intelligence to turn away from all that stuff and do something positive with your life and make a contribution to society, but not all of us, unfortunately, found it as easy to focus when we were 16 as you did. Now, I never smoked, or did drugs, or hung out with the wrong crowd, I still have never had more than 1 drink in a single evening, I don't cheat on my boyfriend, or on my taxes, but I didn't finish college and so I will never make 250K a year. I did not know, at the age of 17 when high school was nearly over, what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. I find it hard to refer to this as a "mistake" and "my own (un)doing. I'm bright, motivated, amiable... and now 21. It's hard to make much more than $30,000 a year when you are a 21-year-old female who "doesn't have adequate experience." And don't tell me to finish school - I can't go back to school part time. I have $800.00 rent. Now, not saying this to warrant pity or sympathy or to whine, I'm simply pointing out the fact that not everyone is born innately talented or driven or knowing what career they want, and for some of us, by the time they figure it out, life has already happened.
Consider these things before you pass judgement.
(Also, while I'm not after anyone's spouse, I AM in love with my boyfriend, who I eventually intend to marry. Such... "distractions," as you put it, are what make life worth living and, I would argue, the whole reason for living, at the end of the day. If you're not doing something altruistic for the world, if you have a family whom you've loved, nurtured, and yes, provided for, as Mr. Wealthy can surely do, you've fulfilled your purpose in this world, as I'm sure even Mr. Wealthy on a superiority trip would agree.
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the original poster is a big fax\\t ** who wouldnt have a chance to cheat on his wife even if he wanted to! The question is.... what is his wife doing behind his big fat back! I'm sure she's tired of f-ing the same fat, useless a-hole. But on the lighter side.. for your wife... since you make mega bucks supposedly, atleast she gets to go shopping w/ all of your money! Does she have a personal trainer?? A pool boy? I bet so!
The original poster is right. Everybody talks about not having the same chances in life as this guy and being happy with your lot in life, that's a load of **. The poster is correct, life is hard and half the problems people have on this site is becuase they choose to loose focus on what's really good and important. For instance just before reading this post I read a post about a woman confessing to like her supervisor, who by the way is married, and how it's killing her not to sleep with him. Now instead of going to work and utilzing all her time to be productive, this stupid little tramp is thinking of some way to wreck another woman's life by sleeping with her husband. If she put half as much effort into her work maybe she'd be making the 250k per year. Not all rich people are lucky, or inherited their money. I'm not rich now but I'm going to be by the time I'm 30 because I'm not allowing myself time to get caught up in stupid mess like orgies with my wifes family or trying to sleep with my freaking boss. You people can't see the light for wearing blindfolds and refusing to take them off. Half the situations on this site can be solved by the participants involved decided to just move on and focus on something better. It doesn't take no shrink to figure that out. Stop crying about your life and get up and do something about it. Plus you reap what you sow. All this crazy mess you people are doing to get into these stupid situations will come back to haunt you whether you like it or not.
And before you go calling me judgemental and perfect let me say I'm not perfect. I grew up a black boy in the hood all around drugs and gangs, killing, and prostitution. I could have easily followed the path of my friends who got involved in all that mess and ruined my life. I could have easily been on welfare, working a dead in job, smoking and getting high, going in and out of jail and yet in the midst of that environment I found myself a 25 year old man holding a upper level management position at one of the top 3 financial firms on wall st. And yes I've made some crazy mistakes in my life but I didn't let them rattle me to the point where I was so confused. And if something did confuse me i worked through it with Gods help.
Anyway you people do need to toughen up.
Original Poster: I forgot to mention that in 19 years of marraige I have never cheated on my wife. Don't think I ever will.
Valid points all around. Some people have more trouble than others, and some posts concern me for the well-being of the poster. Others are funny. This is a very human site. Even the antagonism, less of which would benefit everyone.
you got some nerve... how long you've been coming to this site???? you're just as ** up .. if your life is so perfect what are you doing on this site anyways .. don't you have better things to do then read what we have to say??? i guess u have to come on hear so hopefully you find someone on this site who's more screwed up then you ... **! HA HA HA
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Baby, if you didn't have some sort of problem, you wouldn't come to this site. So get over yourself.
So... how is life up there on that high horse of yours? Unfortunately not everyone gets the same opportunities in life. And sadly.. not all of us can make mega bucks and do everything "right" the way you did. But.. kudos to you for having reached such perfection! I totally agree that one must take responsibility for ones actions and I would never blame others for my lot in life. I dont have a terrible life actually, I mean I may not make 285k like you... but fortunately, I dont need that much to live or meet my needs or the needs of my family. We all have problems, even you. You just aren't "man" enough to come with your issues.... so i'll guess! I bet you're one of those "perfect" men that is on the computer ** to ** every night while you're perfect wife sleeps.... or, are you ** your secretary at your big ** job? Come on mr self righteous..... what are your deep dark secrers in your perfect little world???
from all of us losers and whiners!!!!!
BTW... this is a confessions site... which means you'll be reading about peoples imperfections. Might I suggest you move back to your port sites for further entertainment and leave us losers alone!
Amen brother. I applaud you for your honesty and for your hard-earned success.