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Wife wants to start swinging
My wife Karen , out of the blue says she wants to start swinging. She tends to be very driven, and usually gets what she wants. I asked her why she wants to do that. She tells me she feels it will spice up our relationship, she thought our marriage was getting stale. If I didn’t agree to swinging, then she wants an open marriage. “If you don’t say yes to swinging I have someone I want to date on Friday, “
Karen has changed a lot over the last few years, she is a big time executive at her job, and makes a boat load of money. I am not sure how I even got her to date me let alone marry me. She works out almost everyday, which gives her a killer body, she still has big ** too, Go figure!
An open marriage wouldn’t work for me, not the lady-killer. While the way she is, and the way she looks, I am sure she would be ** every weekend.
I asked, “How is this going to work?”
Karen, “I have looked on ** sites, and I will pick out who we should **.” I am looking at a black man with a white wife right now. Karen :“I have always wanted a black man.” “I also might want to try the wife too! Since I have been Bi-curious for awhile now.”
I love her very much, not certain I am cut out this though. I also can’t afford to divorce her since my hours have been cut back at work. Should I try it for now, or let her have her open marriage?
There is a lot to be aware of.... Less than 2% of marriage service more than 5 years. Usually the husband if all for it until she sees his wife int he act or she starts to cut him off. Most men as average size but also think they are small the first time you have someone larger your issues will start. The thing is you will not know it (this is a man thing). There is a whole evolutionary history behind what you plan to do and it is playing with fire that's is why mankind moved away form it as a part of our evolution away form the (so called) animal state. STDs pregnancy, imbalance in partners are all ignition points...So
Get a pre-nup in place... Sit and talk and talk and talk then make a set of rules clearly stating what is and what is not acceptable to you both....
I would recommend never have the same partner twice of have an affair even a short one.
Niki sounds like the typical **/open marriage wife... I wonder what her husband would say if you spoke to him away from her with no way of her knowing he spoke to you. Our University is working on on this behalf go the government and we have found that the **/open marriage lifestyle is female led and even the most enthusiastic male has reservations and do not expect the marriage to last (we have bind interviewed 1000's of couples, singles and divorcees and deal with many of the divorce cases where mandatory counselling is ordered.
One thing to look out for is kids no matter what from 1 to 50 they are devastated by divorce of parents. In cheating and open marriage cases the mother's relationship seems to be the one that gets damaged... Not sure why the mother and not the father or both?
Think long, think hard and live in love
I am the male in the marriage and I was the one who encouraged my wife to get into swinging. At first my wife was hesitant but after a few parties, she loved it for many, many years. Then she grew tired of the lifestyle but said that we still had an open marriage. As stated before, we have been married for 48 years in August and our marriage couldn’t be stronger. So I disagree with this University study as the people that I talked to at the swingers clubs is that the male was the one who suggested swinging and the wife would finally give in.
I work in the same program don't do it.