Out of my league.

So, there's this boy that I'm starting to slowly develop a crush on...but I keep trying to convince myself that I shouldn't let my feelings get any stronger. I already know I can't have him. He's way out of my league. He's the smartest person in our entire school, is extremely involved in school and the community, is considered "popular" and everyone knows him and respects him. Besides being extremely gorgeous, he's just a great, honest, and hardworking person. That's not something you see very often in high schools nowadays.
Me? I'm practically invisible at my school, slightly above average in academics, an aspiring writer who will probably never make it. As for looks? Could be much worse, but could be a lot better. There are so many other beautiful, skinny, smart, and talented girls that he could have. I just don't think I'm worthy of being around him, let alone dating him.
At the same time, I want to try. I have this small hope that things might go my way for once, but I know it's highly unlikely. Especially since I pledged to myself to stop obsessing over boys and concentrate on what's important.
I don't know what to do, or feel about it. We're both in our junior year of high school. I want to leave high school with at least one memory of taking a risk that was worth it.

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  • I know you're a woman, but you should pick up a book called "The Game" by Niel Strauss. What you need is to learn how people work. You are defeating yourself using "limiting beliefs". That is where you tell yourself "I cannot do this", and then you can't because you believe you can't without even trying. Read the book. change your life. Do what you want.

  • Go for it. He sees something special in you, and you may not be giving yourself enough credit, and, quite honestly, I doubt he's out of your league and I'm sure he does too.

    And ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? The answer is it wouldn't work out. However, as the old saying goes, it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

    As for looks, you might be mindblowingly beautiful to him, seriously. We guys are like that. We can see a woman who doesn't think she's beautiful, but she could be beautiful in our eyes, and that's all that matters. Then in cases where a woman isn't standout attractive, she may be more beautiful inside and more fun to be with than women who may be more attractive then her. I'd rather have an average looking woman who was a blast to be with than a barbie who was all about herself and boring.

    Go for it.

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