Previous girlfriend

I met my first girlfriend when I was 16 and she was 12. Too young for s**, although she was fully developed, so I didn't touch her. I was willing to wait until she was old enough and even contemplated getting married. She proved unwilling and eloped at age 15. That marriage was anulled, but when she came back to town, I didn't want to see her. A few months later she was pregnant and we lost contact. We met up again 6 years later. She was married with 4 girls. From then on, we corresponded occasionally, like at Christmas. That was almost 50 years ago. In the intervening years, I saw her occasionally at her Dad's house, and once or twice at my house. I had gotten married and had 2 girls, and I introduced her to my wife. I hadn't seen her in 6 years, until last month. My brother, his wife, and I went to see her in another state. All of my old feelings came back and now I can't get her out of my mind. She is single and I'm not. She wants me and my wife to visit her sometime soon. Is that a good idea? When I'm around her all I want to do is hold her close to me and I think my wife wouldn't approve. What should I do next?


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  • You're very similar to my parents. They annulled, yet they still both love each other very dearly. I think it did not work out because you guys were TOO YOUNG. Now that you're both old and had experience the hearthache and all the love BS. I think this time will be different. It'll be better because you two have grown and became a better YOU. See her alone first and I think it's time to talk to her and ask her for her hand and tell her that this time will be different. It'll work because you two know why it didn't work last time and you two wont have the same mistake again. So she'll have you then you will end it with your wife and will still come and see and be with your children (Never neglect your responsibilities). GL!

  • Follow your heart


  • Don't go its a bad idea

  • Oddly enough, she's too old for you now.

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