I met my first girlfriend when I was 16 and she was 12. Too young for s**, although she was fully developed, so I didn't touch her. I was willing to wait until she was old enough and even contemplated getting married. She proved unwilling and eloped at age 15. That marriage was anulled, but when she came back to town, I didn't want to see her. A few months later she was pregnant and we lost contact. We met up again 6 years later. She was married with 4 girls. From then on, we corresponded occasionally, like at Christmas. That was almost 50 years ago. In the intervening years, I saw her occasionally at her Dad's house, and once or twice at my house. I had gotten married and had 2 girls, and I introduced her to my wife. I hadn't seen her in 6 years, until last month. My brother, his wife, and I went to see her in another state. All of my old feelings came back and now I can't get her out of my mind. She is single and I'm not. She wants me and my wife to visit her sometime soon. Is that a good idea? When I'm around her all I want to do is hold her close to me and I think my wife wouldn't approve. What should I do next?