Terrified of next step in life.

I have just moved to a new city and I am terrified! I am scared I won't find a job! I'm scared I will never get a grip on my life! My mother helped me move out here and she leaves Thursday and I'm terrified!!! I really want to freak out! I've never done something like this before! And to top it all off! Last weekend I stayed at my cousin's and did more with his roommate than intended. I now feel like an easy s*** who doesn't think all the way through. We didn't have s** or anything but it was pretty intense for me... I am scared that guys only want me for my looks (which I never thought I'd say). And now I'm back in contact with this NAVY guy who I really really like and it kills me that we can't even try a relationship because we are never in the same place at the same time! I just really need someone here to tell me it's all right and I can stop worrying! I worry so much I have constant migraines. I am absolutely terrified! I feel a void growing between my mother and myself that I don't really know if I can fix. IT's so strange! For half of this trip we fought and I don't want us to fight! I really don't! I know it's the stress with moving and having her baby girl be going off on her own but I just wish I had a more stable life at the moment!


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  • Take a deep breath, and jump into your new life. Fear is for fools.


  • Congrats on your move! As scary as it may seem, it will all come together for you. Give it a chance. Change your perspective and be excited, not scared. It will be okay. Before you know it, you won't be the new kid anymore.

    Make a list of your priorities, like get a job and make new friends. Join meetup.com and find some fun groups to attend. Finding friends is a must to establish your support group and explore your new city.

    The guys.. find one that's local and available. Don't give too much thought as to what you did or didn't do with that guy. It happened, move on.

    Moving is stressfull. Once you're settled, chances are good that your relationship with your mom may actually get better with a bit of distance between you two. Best of luck. Don't get discouraged, everything will fall into place for you.

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