I feel like I don't matter
As soon as DH comes home, he is glued to his Xbox. On work days he usually plays 1-3 hours a day, and on his days off, it's even more. It's not just one particular game, it's all of his games.
I'm home alone all day because I'm not working right now, but I'm starting a new job soon. Literally the only time I really get a chance to go out of the house is to go grocery shopping once a week. We are on a tight budget so I can't go out and go shopping or to the movies or go to lunch and the weather is too hot for me to do anything outside. I don't really have any friends here yet, and I get really lonely during the day.
Every day it's the same. It's time for DH to come home and I get really excited to see him. He walks in the door, kisses me, changes out of his uniform, and turns on that stupid Xbox.
He does have some reasons for why he plays on the Xbox so much. He works all day and doesn't get a chance to relax until he comes home, and the Xbox is his way of relaxing. He made a good point that while he is at work I can go on the computer and watch TV as much as I want. He said it's not fair that he can't play Xbox as much as he wants when he is home. Another thing he does is he will play online with his dad and brother, and it's his way of catching up with them. (Some days he spends more time talking to them through the games than he does to me) He also says if he wasn't playing Xbox he would be bored because there is nothing else to do, which is kind of true because I do all of the cooking and cleaning since he's working. His only chore is to take the garbage out (and he doesn't even do it half the time I ask)
I've told him how I feel. That he's a zombie when he's on there, and that I'm lonely all day and when he comes home and he's on his Xbox it's like he isn't even there. I told him I feel like he likes playing the Xbox more than spending time with me. I even told him that I'm starting to get depressed. His reaction was so, unemotional. He just said I'm surprised you haven't gotten depressed sooner. (I have been, but I've tried hiding it from him as best as I can.) I thought maybe he would be surprised and be concerned, and ask me how long it's been going on, or something. But his reaction was like I just told him that it's cloudy outside today.
I asked him today if he could just play for an hour today, and he got upset and said that was like a "tease". Ummm I think an hour is plenty more than a tease, but oh well. We have had issues with his amount of time spent on the Xbox before. He always threatens "Fine, if it's such a problem, I'll throw the stupid Xbox away!" and I obviously tell him no, that's stupid. The Xbox isn't the problem, it's his time spent on it that is the issue!
I've talked to him and told him how I feel, and he says he feels bad that I'm so lonely at home all day, but it isn't fair that I put a limit on him playing Xbox .If I actually threw away or sold the Xbox he would be p*****. I am so lost. I don't know what to do anymore. Am I over reacting? How long do you allow your DH to play Xbox if you have a limit? Are there any other solutions?