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How can I tell my wife's friend is flirting with me?
So my wife's good friend has been very flirtatious (I think) with me. She calls me beautiful, touches my leg, laughs way too much at my jokes but I don't know if she's being serious or just friendly. She is married also but her husband is way older and she complains about him a lot. She is really attractive and I've had ** dreams about her before and I'm pretty sure if she tried to seduce me I would let her (save your terrible husband comments for another time). I guess my question is how can I tell if she wants me to take it further? What should I say or do to confirm this?
These are all fantastic suggestions. I do have one situation very soon that I can use. I asked her to find out what my wife want's for xmas a few weeks ago and after some pestering she found out. I sent her the obligatory thank you email response that said "I owe you big time for doing this. Just tell me what you want." No response yet. Perhaps I could have worded the email differently?
no its fine: if it were more suggestive it would have been too much. you cracked open a window and she may either crawl through it or open it further herself. well done!
I agree. I think you worded it just perfectly for the circumstances, "Just tell me what you want", suggesting that you'll do anything FOR her or give anything TO her, and that's what you want to do, and that's what you want her to understand. Now you need to find out what this girl likes, something personal (or even intimate), and give it to her for Christmas, as irecommended above. And you need to make absolutely certain, if it is at all financially possible, that what you give her is substantially nicer and more expensive than what you give your wife, and that she's aware of that fact. Yes, women do love compliments, as you noted, but they love presents even more, especially expensive presents. And it would be even better if it were something nicer and more expensive than whatever her husband is likely to get her for Christmas: you want to establish yourself as not only a VIABLE alternative to her husband, but a PREFERABLE alternative to her husband, and not just sexually but in EVERY imaginable way. Get her thinking that way and start tyhe process during the holidays. Another possibility is to create a Twelve-Days-type atmosphere with her -- "just between the two of us", if she seems to be responding to your other approaches -- and give her smaller gifts every one for twelve days, and make ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that she understands that the Twelve-Days treatment is something you're only showering on her, NOT ON YOUR WIFE, and that you'd like it to become a tradition with her, even if it only ever remains a secret tradition. You've definitely got this moving on the right track, and you definitely need to keep it up (so to speak)! :)
In curious to know how things have progressed. Has she responded to ur email?
On a similar note I'm much in the same situation. My wife's friend visits our house a lot and surprisingly only when I am also home.
When my wife calls her to hang out just the two of them she always finds herself busy.
I met her actually while I was dating my wife and I introduced them. My wife soon found out they had common friends and also found out from one of those friends that she was crushing on me when I met her and had admitted to trying to get my attention.
She compliments me all the time and and being single she often describes what she wants her husband to look like, and my wife thinks she's always describing me.
I often catch her checking me out end even thou at first I didn't care for it, it now caught my interest because u see she dresses up tryes to get my attention as much as possible.
This past week however she started hitting on my wife as well and my wife didn't think anything of it at first until she offered to kiss my wife on the lips so she can taste the new Chapstick my wife had bought. Her exact words were "well, you know if we were 'really really good friends' you would let me kiss you on the lips just to see what your Chapstick tastes like...." My wife blushed and felt uncomfortable but at the same time she laughed it off trying to change the subject without saying no.
My wife visits family every other month and is gone for a few weeks at a time. My hope is that doring that time she visits our house unannounced -- as she often does. It hasn't happend yet, and I believe because my wife tells her "don't visit next week I'm out of town."
Will I ever pursue the opportunity? No! Can I say that I will say no if she asks for it? I'm not so sure!
Leave it alone.