I feel awful

I'm in a relationship, and have been for three years, I rarely see my boyfriend and he rarely comes to visit me, as he lives pretty far away.
I work with a dude who's chill as f***, we share insane amounts of similar interests and I'm pretty sure I've fallen for him in a big way. I'm also pretty sure these feelings are reciprocated. I feel terribly guilty and ashamed of myself, and as much as I try to ignore how I feel, the feelings I have keep getting stronger.
It may sound incredibly arrogant, so please forgive me, but I know that if I ever left my boyfriend, it would kill him.
He has often talked about how he would kill himself(!) if I left (my boyfriend has from aspergers and *often* says how he feels) I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I cannot stop thinking about this other guy. I hate myself for this. We are all adults in our thirties and forties, so this high school bullshit is even worse.

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  • OKAY DO NOT HAVE A LOCAL GUY TO GET IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM, that is called CHEATING. try to make arrangements where you and your bf can see eachother more, and if that doesnt happen then try ending it with him but make him think it was his idea. but whatever you do dont cheat or he will really kill himself.

  • You need to get it out of your system. I was in a similar situation and having the local guy really helped me. We were very physical and had a lot of fun but when my boyfriend came to town he totally played along and stood back. You just need to make an arrangement with this guy at work. Go out for some drinks, see where it goes and let him know that you have a boyfriend but he will rarely be in the picture.

  • Advice from a moron.

  • Kiss my t***, Butt Boy!

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