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Retarded Step Son
I hate my step son with every fiber of my being. We used to only have him every other weekend and I would just hide in my room those weekends. Now we have him 100% of the time and he is driving me INSANE. I think about divorce at least once/week just because of this ** **. He did horribly in public school, so his dad decided I should homeschool him. He is ten years old, but my three year old is smarter than him. More than once, my three year old has answered a question that the little fuckwad didn't know the answer to. He can't do simple mathematics, can hardly read (and chooses to read my daughter's board books when he's forced to read), still can't spell three letter words, etc etc etc. I will present information to him in a million ways and try to make it as fun and as exciting for him as possible and he won't grasp a ** lick of it.
He still ** AND ** himself. No joke, one day I kept smelling something foul and couldn't figure out where it was coming from. I thought maybe the cats and taken a dump, so I cleaned their box.... NOPE. I smelled it all through breakfast and while I did my morning chores. I took a shower and had to pass his room and realized that I smelled the stench again. STILL didn't occur to me that the idiot had ** himself, so I went downstairs. About thirty minutes later, he was on the couch (watching ** Thomas the Train, because he is a COMPLETE AND UTTER **) and I FINALLY realized that the smell was coming from him. He NEVER EVER responds when you talk to him, so I just asked if he knew he smelled. NO RESPONSE. Then it hit me - HE ** HIS ** PANTS. I say "Did you ** your pants?" and he just stares at me. Eventually he says "I guess I'll go take a bath." UH DUHHHHH!!! Did you really ** eat breakfast, play with toys, and watch tv ALL WHILE SITTING IN YOUR OWN **? Yes, he did. And Daddy Dearest doesn't ** care. UGH.
He ** his pants CONSTANTLY. I find pissy underwear hidden all the time. I even found a stash of my daughter's pull ups that he'd ** in and hidden under his desk. STILL, Daddy Dearest doesn't give a **.
He is also ugly as **. He has buck teeth that are brighter than the sun and I want to punch them out of his scrawny ** face every time he stares at me when I ask a simple question.
My daughter adores him and tries to play with him, but gets so frustrated because he won't ever respond to anything she says. I eventually have to yell "RESPOND WHEN SHE TALKS TO YOU, PLEASE!" and he'll eventually say something totally ** stupid.
He is a complete follower with no imagination or personality of his own. When he is around his significantly younger cousins, he copies everything they say and do and laughs when he has no ** idea what is going on.
He has like three chores that he has to do every day (make his bed, empty the trash from the bathrooms, and put his laundry away). YET every single day, if you don't break it down ** Barney style for him, he "forgets" how to do them. Seriously. The other day I told him to take care of the trash and he came down with his arms full of used toilet paper and pads and ** because he "forgot" that he was just supposed to take the bags out and replace them. WTF? THAT IS A SPECIAL KIND OF RETARDED!!! Literally EVERY SINGLE DAY, I have to tell him how to do his chores again.
His NANA, who lives right across the street, babies him like ** crazy. She still picks him up and carries him on her hip through stores (he is small for his age) and rocks him. HOLY **, I cannot stand it. She thinks that he is right on track academically (nevermind that I had to purchase kindergarten curriculum instead of grade 5 after realizing that he didn't even know all of his letters) and that it is other kids who are "too advanced". She tells my husband that it is completely normal for him to pee and ** himself and that it will just go away. SOOOO DH doesn't do ** and just lets him run around completely uneducated and having more accidents than my potty trained three year old. Oh! And one time, my daughter had colored stuffed blocks with her and ** said "This one is blue!" and Nana actually said "Good job!" and made a giant ** stink about the idiot knowing what blue looks like.
I am embarrassed to take him in public because people have literally asked if something was wrong with him. So I just stay locked up in my house with the ** ** all day long.
OP here. The replies I got were pretty harsh - but totally deserved. I actually do not hate my step son, though. I know that nothing is his fault. His mother and I have never gotten along, so I feel like that carried over to him, which is totally unfair. He does have learning issues and they aren't his fault at all either - I get that. There was some bitterness about having to quit my job and homeschool him (my husband suggested it while in the same room as his entire family, so I couldn't exactly say no), but most of the time these days, I actually enjoy it. I would also like to add that I have never caused him harm and never, ever would. I have probably only even raised my voice with him five or six times in the six years I've been in his life. A few people wished death upon me for the terrible things I said - feeling this way sometimes made me wish death upon myself. When I posted this, I let all of my feelings build up and somehow came across this stupid site and decided to let it all out. Despite, at times, feeling like I hate/dislike my stepson, I have always TRIED to love him. I don't know that I am there yet, but I hope to be one day. I try my best to give him a good life and when I have these sort of feelings toward him, I feel SO guilty. It's not fair AND I KNOW IT. I know that I have to overcome all of these feelings for him AND for my own sanity.
I am sorry about all of the ugly things I said in a fit of rage a year ago. I don't remember what all happened that day that I felt the need to vent every little thing that has ever bothered me about him, but it clearly was not a good decision on my part. Please know that I understand how ** it was and that I am constantly trying to be a better person, even if I come across as the world's worst human being ever above.
I think it is healthy get it out where ppl don't know you. Vent and move forward. You sound like an amazing person to me!
Dont apologize to these ** in how you feel.
It's okay...I could tell how frustrated you were when you wrote this. Sometimes we all think horrid things and need to write about it "from the id." Having mean, ugly thoughts doesn't make you a bad person. If it did, there would be no good people. I've written a few mean-spirited, nasty things on websites like these. I meant them at the time, but as soon as I hit "post" and let it out there, I felt better. You probably did, too. It's better that you said those things here rather than to your stepson.
And for what it's worth, it was ** of your husband to railroad you like that in front of his family. I don't blame you for feeling bitter about having to quit your job and take care of a special needs kid that isn't yours.
Dont apologize to these ** for feeling the way you do!
I understood you were posting during a breaking point. It's okay. I have the same thoughts run through my head.
Don't ever apologize for speaking the truth. Honestly, if I were you, I'd have fing killed the retarded kid as well as my husband by now. Don't try to hard to like or love anything that is normally supposed to cause revulsion. It's a worthless effort. Thank you for your honesty and I hope life has gotten better for you. You have one life to live- don't live it on behalf of some moron.
I wouldn't have killed any of them, I'd have killed myself so I wouldn't have to deal with them.
I just laughed so hard. Please don't murder him his stupid ** wouldn't be worth the effort or the jail time. I bet you'd wanna hear the stupid sounds he mare as he gasped for air though. Divorce daddy dearest and say enjoy lil jimmy **. You sound competent enough to do better, have your own children and be hapoy.
Totally agree. Not worth jail time.
You should burn for this..
Not to worry: she WILL burn. And soon.
F---- You, I hope she leaves and finds happiness elsewhere....she WILL burn? Is that a threat?
And you know this how? Some entity died and made you God and now you can say whose gunna burn?
** you
Wow... i cant believe a mother could have such awful feelings toward a child. To me it sounds like you're the fuckwad. Since you cant seem to understand this yourself let me spell it out for you- he obviously has a learning disability. or hes just been through so much ** in his short life that he doesnt know whats up from down. Your 3 year old has more emotional capabilities than you do! Have you ever took one second to put yourself in his shoes? The boy needs help. Not your hateful attitude and constant critism. Idk why you would even agree to homeschooling in the first place, for many reasons. As a mother of a12 year old step daughter with ADHD, 3 year old and one year old of my own im apalled at your story. Have a heart lady.
No, even with autism.. the kid can just be an **. I've seen it before the kids that are ** geniuses when it comes to playing games and manipulating people at whatever cost to get their f%cking way....YET it takes them 40 minutes to wipe the dust off a small coffee table because the ** is too busy looking past you with his bulging eyes and buck teeth to see what's on the t.v. behind you. Even the people who are caregivers at heart and sacrifice thier own wants and needs for the sake of others get tired of getting ** on by a 9 year old who would normally get reprimanded for their deplorable behavior but because they are on the autism spectrum they end up getting a free pass. I have an autistism spectrum step son who is 9 and still **'s all over out guest bathroom carpet then without a care in the world plops his ** on the couch twirling like a windmill and I'm expected to wipe adult sized turds off the carpet, smeared ** off the toilet handle and light switch BUT 5 minutes later this little a hole is telling me my brain says youre a bad mom and I hate you while....he is correcting me constantly about avengers etc and schooling me about when Hitler ruled and what Harriet tubman did. ** ALL OF YOU who say this woman is evil for venting. Until you've been there yourselves you van ALL go ** yourselves.
Lmfaoooooooo
Sorry for laughing but your post was funny.
I feel your pain though.
Keep your chin up.
((Hugs))
Id kill it. Sorry. Yuck.
I totally agree, they are hard to handle. You think the kids are bad, retarded adults are ten times worse. There was this UGLY adult ** who goes by the name Fredericko1996 aka Tyler Frederick a total **, off his ** rocker. He looks ** scary with his blank stares, someone who is in their 20's who likes Mr Men and Thomas the Tank Engine, ** ** KILL ME! People like that shouldn't be allowed online. Note to self don't let anyone who's ** in the head use the internet, they chat **. Those kids grow up and turn into MONSTERS, ** **.
Really? Gross!!! What a total re-**. I looked him up online, scared the s h i t out of me. His name is Rapper1996. Blame his mother! She's like all the mothers on this forum topic. Once the re-tarded kid grows up they no longer have the burden. So that re-** grows up and can continue on to total re-tardation and that also means scrolling the web and sharing their crazy mind with the world.
Ew!
Adult sized turds, yuck kill me. I agree having one of those people with aspergers or **-pergers as I like to call them don't understand what you have to deal with. There should be a special place for them where they can't contact anyone like a mental hospital. People are letting them run wild like dogs. Half of the time they do what they want, and are free to roam the internet. It's messed up, you wouldn't believe how many of them use social media and vent about stupid stuff that nobody cares about. Then they use the sob story; "I have Autism." When they get called out for being weirdos and expect you to bow before them, ** NO!
Some people should learn punctuation, spelling, amd grammar before attemptig to dress someone else down. Were YOU the failed abortion, by chance? How many lil re-res have you birthed? A special-ed classroom full? ** off.
YOUR the most horrible person I have ever met or read about, this poor child has either ADD or Autism, and you being impatient and angry towards him will only make him worse, take him to a doctor and change or get the ** out of his life. HE doesn't know what he is doing because you get angry and shout at him. Leave the dad and die in a hole, when he gets over his disabilities and has a decent job and supports his family, YOU will hopefully be dead in a ditch somewhere.
Not until you deal with retarded do you understand. AdHD is s*** compared to retarded.
I met someone with ADHD and he seemed just like them, dumb as **.
Hey...go ** yourself...you are dillusional and don't have any experience to know what this woman is going through. OMG, BFD!...she needs to vent ! I have an 8 yr old ASSS who still s#its in his pants at school because he was too busy during school lunch listening to his friends talk....and I had to go to his school and clean adult sized turds from his underwear while he it reprimanding me about how I spelled Grey wrong. Seriously...you have NO ** idea how much we try to make our step children's lives enjoyable...usually whIle the deadbeat REALLY mom calls about once a month just to establish dominance over YOU instead of trying to connect with the poor step mom who is treated like Benson and show real consideration to her autistic childs needs. Yeah sooo ...** YOU....yeah I said it .....walk a mile in someone else's shoes...maybe live life a little...THEN get back to me.
** you.
Okay then YOU adopt them.
You don't understand, YOU'LL NEVER UNDERSTAND STFU!
She had repeatedly said she isn't angry or bad to the child and that's she was just venting for the sake of and and even came back on and apologized for what she said y did you read the post if you were going to b so close minded and not even understand it's a vent and obviously you have negative thought so you should understand you just told he got die in a ditch
YOU are a piece of ** that poor boy has some sort of learning disability and he is copying others since what he does is wrong. And all you can do is embarrass him you should take him to a doctor and be his supporter not his ** enemy rot in ** ** karma is a **
You don't know what you're taliking about. Do you want us to drop our autistic stepchildren to you and see how you do having to take care of them day aftet day with no emotional reciprocation or connection? Mind you this would be while you wipe thier assessment even though they know how to put together complex Lego sets in less than half an hour and you'd have to DAILY brush thier teeth for them, wipe their ** off all the bathroom floors and constantly remind them of simple thing like...Your pants are on backwards again and oh let me tie tour ** shoe because you are too busy watching ninja turtles on t.v. to concentrate for even a second
As said before: I'd kill it. But not before being ** I wasted 9 mos and ruined my body to birth it.
** you too.
You adopt him then, o saintly one.
I get asked a lot why I'm never having children. This is why. Actually this is only one reason why. Never getting with anyone that has kids as well, male or female. Not effing happening. Sorry for your lot. I would not judge you if you left the kid's dad, he clearly doesn't understand you.
Well said, have a great life
Thanks, we will! :) I'm not who you responded to, I'm another smart person who chose to think BEFORE reproducing. Confessions like this really reinforce our wise choices. The rest of you have our condescending pity, lol.
Let him sit in his own **! Sleep next to his ** pants and making him hand wash his own pants maybe if he has to clean up his own mess he wont wanna make one!
Agree. Let him sit in his own ** for a few days. It'll stop pdq.
I actually toilet trained my autistic step son when he was 10 by making HIM clean up his own crappy messes. It only took him one week to be fully toilet trained when he realized that I was not cleaning up his ** off of his body or anywhere else. Btw, I have my own biological child who is autistic and he was 18 at the time. I toilet trained him the same exact way. No one is going to tell me that I showed favoritism. For some reason it is harder with a stepchild because habits were already instilled in that child before you were in the picture. It is a struggled for any stepparent and some resentment is normal.
Great advice, that is what I have to resort to because I feel it's a sign of laziness why he refuse to go to the toilet but knows how to go lock up in his room and ** and then come tell you to clean him up
Might have Autism, or ADD, and is developmentally delayed.
But I think the one who wrote this post also has some patience issues.
Please don't beat your son. This can really lead to child support services into taking action upon you,
oh and P.S.
Lol umad
Child support services? Are you ** retarded? Also, she never said that she hits him.
You are a horrible person. If he has special need then that is why he asks that way. It is not his fault at all. You knew what you were getting into when you married your husband. Understanding that you are frustrated when he behaves like this but to compare him to your children states that you don't like him because he has a spot in your husband heart that you can't reach. Your antics will not go unnoticed, you will get caught. You are no type of good mother.
** you, ya judgemental twittwat!
**.... no maybe she loves the ** that made the little monster. Where is the rule that says anyone has to actually like their step kids???
Life is hard, then you die. you can make a change or make excuses...the boy is mentally retarted, that is clear, you are not responsible for his problem... but your mental health is on trial.You did not create the world and you can not fix it. I say give him to the proffesionals and live your short life. life comes with challenges but we can avoid some of them. Do the right thing for you without killing anyone. you are a strong and good woman. YOUR FREEDOM IS IN YOUR HANDS.
Hi 30 something,
It's not funny but I had to laugh, you just inherited the product of a moron breeding with another moron. I saw ** like this in high school, you run out and ** the biggest moron that you can find (BECAUSE HE'S BUFF WITH A BIG WEE WEE)and then ** later that your kids are all ** up. in this case I know it's not your fault, but might I suggest not having kids with your idiot hubby.
You might want to suggest he gets an evaluation for attention deficit disorder. There are cases where people who have attention deficit disorder accidentally mess their pants because their attention is focused elsewhere. Does he have a high tolerance to pain? Does he seem like he is usually spaced out? Please get him checked.
Obviously the boy has mental or emotional issues. The ** seems to be the step mother and the parents.
He does not even know he soiled his own pants would lead any adult to realize this child is mentally handicapped and needs to be assessed not beaten.
Home schooling from this brain dead step mother will not help much. She seems to be as challenged as the boy.
Assessments won't help. Beatings will.
yeah, beat him. beat him til he **.
I know this is a terrible thing to say, but your comment made me split my sides laughing
What that little punk-** ** needs is a series of good beatings. And so does his Nana, especially her. As for you, you just need to divorce that **-sack husband of yours, because this situation IS NOT GOING TO GET BETTER. Get out now.
i agree. grandma needs her ** beat. BEAT!!!!
yeah and then beat grandma til she **, too.