My mother has cancer and i find it hard not to let her know all that i am feeling right now, because i know that she is going through enough without me putting pressure on her. but its hard i mean i walked in on her when she was crying and most people would probably have said that they would give their mother a hug and cry with her and all of that bullshit, but i know my mother and she is tough and she wants to be seen as a tough person, and so i pretended like nothing was happening asked what i had wanted to ask and left her to her privacy. when she is in pain, i help her with an ice pact and a heat pad and that is it, i don't ask her if she is okay, because obviously she isn't, i don't let her see the fears and the helplessness that i feel. and so i treat her the same as i did before she got diagnosed with cancer, i mean i know things have changed, but in my eyes she is always and forever my beautiful, strong, independent mother and i will always treat her that way. and i let her know in little ways that if she needs, i'll be there to help, like i have always been. one last thing before i'm, this experience has made me think of the saying "i am dieing" and change it to "i am living" because no matter how you think of it, you are still alive, and living your life to the fullest, no matter what you are going through as long as you are breathing you are living more than you are dieing, right?