Scared I will Never Get a White Woman Pregnant

sorry to intrude on your conversation here but i think the wife here may not have gotten as much clarity on the situation as she thinks she did. she asked her husband about him seeing or wanting to see "another woman" but didn't allow for the possibility that he has become involved with another man. if true that would also account for his waning interest in ** with her and for him eventually abandoning that ship altogether. its possible hes not cheating with a woman or women but is cheating with a man or men. the reason that occurred to me is that it happened to me in my first marriage. my macho macho husband gradually stopped having ** with me and then after about a year and a half of NO ** blindsided with the news that he had been seeing a 19 year-old ...... male. there was nothing in his behavior or appearance that even hinted at his having changed his staunch heterosexuality other than the decline in ** with me. again im sorry to have interfered but i think she has to consider that her clearance may be based on incomplete facts.

Absolutely no apologies needed and don't feel like you intruded or interrupted. I think I find your view of this situation so valid. I have been thinking about this lady' situation and it dawned on me that hubby could careless what wife did.I was wondering then,how does he get any form of sexual satisfaction? Thanks for your contribution and please say more or anything if you have to.Its a public forum,anybody can interject with anything they feel like sharing. How are things going with your second husband? How did you overcome being blindsided by hubby doing a 19 year old male at the time?

thanks so much for your kindness and sensitivity: that is so rare. dealing with the homosexuality of a man i had loved and married and had kids with was the hardest thing i ever have done and being confronted with the fact that he was cheating with a teenage boy was painful and embarrassing. seriously to look at him and his life you would never have guessed that he was gay. and i mean gay, not bi: he wasnt swinging both ways. for years after the horrifying "incident" i thought it was all my fault: that i wasnt woman enough or wasnt attentive enough or wasnt sexual enough to satisfy him or i was so repellent as to put him off women forever. i cried all the time even after the divorce. my kids probably thought that mommy had lost her mind. i think a part of it is that i may have been harboring some homophobia that i didnt know i had. i never treated my gay friends any differently than my straight friends but maybe i had some biases that were "proven" (i use the word ironically) by my husbands filthy behavior. i dont know. anyway i eventually met and married george who understood my plight and allowed me the time and space to rediscover my femininity and sexuality, and who became a father to my kids and provided the stable example that they needed in their lives. hes been amazing and we have a good ** life and a great marriage. before when i heard or thought of cheating i always thought of it just in the hetero context and i think your original correspondent on this thread is probably the same. but now my first thought when i hear or read about cheating is always connected to the homosexual variety. your very intuitive to realize that my shock was not just the ** or the age of his lover but BOTH and to realize that it stirred so many questions and insecurities in me. thanks for that as well.