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Scared I will Never Get a White Woman Pregnant
I am in my late 40s.I am so scared that I will grow old and die without having a child with a white woman.
I am in my late 40s.I am so scared that I will grow old and die without having a child with a white woman.
I hear you, and I can't disagree. I don't know who pursued who in this situation, though I will tell you that my wife is extremely aggressive and doesn't take "no" for an answer when she's after a man. I've had to sit and watch as she got up from our table at a restaurant or club and walked over to hit on men she'd never seen before. That was mostly before we got married, but she has also done it since the wedding. Like I said, she dates, she strays, she plays, but this situation is totally different than the others: (1) she's barebacking him, (2) she's submitting to his demands, (3) she expects me to start wrapping it up, (4) I think she has dumped all her other boyfriends for this guy, and (5) when he calls, she goes to him immediately. What I was curious about was the apparent interest among black males to develop serious relationships -- and families? -- with married white females. Like I said, it happened to a friend of mine, you're looking for it, and multiple white males and females seem (judging by this series of postings) super eager to participate or already have been participating. Is this a thing now?
I found two links in a blog written by a Dr. David Weston. I thought it might give you some sort of perceptive on this issue so that you can dig deeper. Black-White Pregnancies http://moderndirections.com/bwpregnancy.htm . Also, Why Some Husbands Want Their Wives To Have Black Lovers http://moderndirections.com/tenreasons.htm .The blog is based on real people that have contacted the blogger by mail and he has used their letters to address their issues in the blog.The issue you are facing seems to be rampant and starts as far down as the teenage years according to that blog.Just read it and decide how you feel or view the predicament you are in. My only selfish question is,if black-white pregnancies are so common,why am I having such a hard time effecting one?lol.
I don't even know what to say. Everything you wrote is exactly right, and that blog says things about my wife and her lover that are like hitting the nail on the head. He wants her pregnant and he almost certainly wants it to blow up her marriage to me. So many things are like they were written about our marriage and her relationship with him. It really scares the ** out of me about what's going to happen. I don't know what to do.
Glad you had a chance to look at the blogs.I scanned through both blogs to get an idea but never took time to read them in detail. I will spend time reading everything in those blogs-I liked what I read there briefly so much. There are no easy answers to life's complex issues. If there were panaceas,life would probably be too boring. It must be very difficult to have a wife or partner, who for years believed and confided in you,all of a sudden,doing the very same thing to some other fella, like you don't exist. The fear and anticipation that a gf or wife will leave or cheat on me one day,and I have always been right,hit me in my 20s. Such that,no matter how happy I was in a relationship,I almost always had a secret lady on the side as insurance.Whenever things went sour,that arrangement cushioned me against too much pain and devastation.I learned all that from being hurt by the ladies I dated(my very first gf whom I deflowered cheated on me with a cousin),married,or the many married women who chased after me(or I sought) for nothing really other than ** for decades.What your wife and her lover are doing is nothing,strange,new,or unique-though its all that and much more to you. Its something that has been happening since ancient times around the world each minute, day, week,month or year.While that does not make it acceptable, fair or right,your wife is simply being human and cheating is actually part of human behavior(not defending her conduct).Some people will simply cheat,no matter what!. You simply have to protect your big loving heart from busting. A 28 year old lady I know casually,give birth today to her 6th baby(#3 for current hubby).He is in a psych hospital after learning, few days ago, that wife cheated with his home visiting nurse and is doubting paternity.I wish we had a pill that perpetuated and sustained monogamy!