I'd rather do it myself
My wife and I have never had a good s** life. We met when we were 21, and have been married for 14 years now. At our peak, just after marriage, we were having s** maybe three times per month. It was just never a big thing with us. She had a kid already, so maybe that was a part of it. We never had that "just us" time.
Anyway, we had our third and final child together almost exactly one year ago. Once my wife started getting morning sickness, we quit having s** altogether. So it's been about one and a half years now.
She wants to start having s** again. But the truth is, I can't get an erection thinking about her anymore. I'm so used to watching p*** and taking care of myself at this point, that that's the only way I feel like I can get off anymore.
We will lay next to each other in bed. She will lean against me - always her sign that she wants me to start putting the moves on her - I will let my hands wander over her, trying to get any sort of erection going. And there's nothing.
I'm not impotent. I still j*** off almost every day to p***. And the erections are still just as hard as they were 10 years ago. But something about my wife now just doesn't do it for me. I WANT to have s** with her. I want us to have a normal relationship. I do love her. There's just some mental block and I don't know how to fix it.