I've about had it with my stepkids. I met my wife in 2004. I was living alone in a 2 bedroom trailer. She had 4 kids. Things weren't going well in her marriage,so she left her man for me.
We lived in the 2 bedroom for a while and in 06 I bought a 4 bedroom trailer down the street,as we needed the space. I married my now wife in 08 (a full 2 years AFTER I purchased the house.)I've had a hard time with my stepkids. The oldest is a non responsible freeloader who can't function (literally) unless others do things for him. I refuse and my wife resents me for that. He's 23...time for him to figure it out.
My oldest Stepdaughter recently started posting things on her moms FB page relating to "If I talked to my parents like some kids talk to thier parents,I wouldn't be alive."
I called her out and left a comment saying that she obviously has forgotten all the rotten disrespectful things she told me growing up.
She PM'ed me and let me have it..
I'm a piece of s***,I never helped her mom. I provided a roof over the head of a woman and her 4 kids BEFORE we got married...I went $104K in debt for this chick and her kids...I provided them with College and Medical through my Disability status with the VA.Sad how people never see what you actually have done. I pay the Mortgage,and half the utilities. My wife buys groceries and toiletries and pays the other 1/2 of the utilities.
I'd say we're even...my wife always gives me crap about how this is "my house"...on paper...legally it is...and as long as I'm treated like s*** by her and her kids,there's no way I'm putting my wife on the deed.
Tonight I saw where her oldest adult daughter wrote on my Wife's Facebook about how my wife raised her kids,put clothes on thier back,food on the table and a roof over thier heads WITHOUT ANY HELP.
I again commented like "So where do I fit in this.?" I came into thier lives in 04. I sternly told my wife that I hope her kids don't have some kind of bad luck and need a place to.live because they aren't moving in here...her response was a look as to say "Wanna Bet"
Last time I let her daughter move home we all sat down and discussed it...I expected a flat $75 per paycheck,giving her and her boyfriend a month to catch up and get back on thier feet. We all agreed and when it came time to collect,no money. My wife gave me h*** for trying to enforce the agreement and to just leave her be...
Wife is CONSTANTLY making excuses for her kids...wife goes grocery shopping and asks if there's something in.particular I want...buys it but gives it to her kids when they dont have any money,then b****** because she has no money and there's no food in the house...this marriage is maddening and I wish I had money to hire a lawyer...I'm so miserable I just want out of this horrible dysfunctional marriage...The Gaslighting drives me insane...HELP!!!