There is an irony in relationships and
There is an irony in relationships and dating. Most women find it difficult to get their partner to talk about his feelings and complain about this common situation. I am a man who finds no challenge in stating my emotions and explaining how they work, but in my last 2 relationships, my girflriends have become exhausted by me trying to open a 2-way dialogue about feelings.
I have found that being open about feelings (not just insecurities, but positive ones as well) and sharing them even when not asked, has taken a toll on my relationships. It's like the women cannot romantically align themselves with a man who is able to admit his vulnerability-they are more attracted to cockiness and never second-guessing (which is a front that all men put up). I am finding that the second I emotionally detach myself from them, even remotely, their insecurities kick in and they go back to being women, desiring romance, etc.
It hurts me to think that the only way a woman I am with will be attracted to me is to portray an indifferent image of someone who is unaffected by circumstance and someone who is disinterested in romance. All aspects-s**, kissing, cuddling, etc...comes right back when I shut down and appear not to care about anything. It is a catch-22, just like anything else with women, and it is not fair.
I guess I should not look for a best friend in a partner?