3-way relationship. Can it work?
I have a dilemma. I have been with my wife for 7 years. We got together very young. Over that time our relationship has grown so much and to this day we are head over heels for each other. The problem is we are both also head over heels for someone else that turns out to be the same person... my wife's best friend! Who also happens to be head over heels for me which she confessed had been going on for a number of years - basically since she met me. This explains the one too many relationships that didn't last more than 2 weeks, being single for the majority of time and always hanging with my wife and I at every chance. She would sometimes flirt with me but I always just thought of it as harmless.
One night the girls got to discussing threesomes to which they admitted they hadn't tried it but wanted to. Given I was the guy in the middle they asked if I was interested which I fobbed off as a joke initially until they started making out in front of me when we got back to my place. At the time my mind was saying 'that's a no go zone mate' but the testosterone was saying 'smash these two into next century'. Sure enough testosterone won and I was all smiles. I will spare you the details other than to say it's as amazing.
Anyway fast forward 1 year. My wife's gf has all but moved in and this trio thing has been awesome for the past year. I'm not just talking the s** but the whole relationship. We go on dates together, we travel together and most importantly we laugh together and make each other happy. All in all we are having an absolute ball. We set rules which is basically always invite the other when engaging in s** if they are around and it is just like any normal relationship - no cheating. Surprisingly, despite always being together, our friends and family have no clue. They just think we are the best of friends. We always just introduce my wife's friend as my wife's friend. This ways something we agreed to save face. Our neighbours may have a suspicion but that's it.
They have now put something to me that I don't know what to do about or how I feel about. In short, they won't my wife's girlfriend to officially move in and essentially go public with our relationship. Eeeeeeeeekkk! My biggest concern is what people will think and most importantly what my family will think. The other issue I am grappling with, which is related to the first issue, is that I have always been taught a relationship on that level is between two people only. I never thought this would happen and there is a mental block. I think of general conversations I will have with people like my colleagues or people I don't know well... How do I say I'm in a relationship with 2 girls and not sound like an idiot and a douchebag. Then there is the stigma attached to this which I don't think the girls have thought about in great detail. The chances are people will judge and some very arrogant people will label them s****. I wonder what impact that will have on our relationship as well. Then there is the kicker... Drum roll please... They are both pregnant! This likely happened on one alcohol fuelled night with no protection. I feel like I'm ready to be a father. We are all at that age.
Am I worrying over this for no reason? Should I feel bad about what we have? Is it wrong?