What do I do.

I’m in a complicated situation. I am with a girl who it had taken me ages to get with and when she finally went out with me we started a 3 year relationship. I’m 27 male and she is 25 things had been going well until the company I worked for went under.
I started a new job in the summer working for a clothing chain. I worked in the women’s department sorting out the latest clothing etc. I cannot remember how long it was before I was moved to the evening shift that Christmas. It was Christmas and the store was busy and It had taken over an hour after store close to sort the place out. My evening manager Karen K who is 47 years old and still quite attractive for her age, she dresses nice for the shop floor most of the time in pencil skirts and theses light glitter style tights that give women leg definition heels and blouses, she attracts male attentions from shoppers and staff and is married.

I’m not sure how it started but we started talking about the clothing on the shop floor. Karen was a women who would be always on store floor staff cases, even mine sometimes. We talked most nights and I noticed as we went into the year she started to flirt with me and one of the other staff members, it was sutle at first undoing one button, touching hands, grinding against me and him while trying to get down one of the isles, her skirt must have gotten shorter after store closed and it was always me and this other guy behind with just her when the places closed because she did the work schedules.

On the 21st of December I attended the store Christmas party on the last day of store open i brought along my GF and Karen was talking to the other guy. During the evening my GF was ill and I had to take her home, but I returned to the party because I left my jacket and my mobile phone was inside. On the way out I ran into Karen she asked why I was leaving so soon, I told her I needed to go and she kissed me on the cheek and said Merry Christmas I froze for a moment and she said ‘I looked like a guy who is wondering what he should do next…’ and laughed It was awkward. she told me to follow her if I wanted and she walked Into the warehouse and closed the door. I stupidly followed her and she waiting in the dark we kissed and We ended up having s** in the clothing racks for only 15 mins and she said need to get back to the party and told me she would see me soon, I left and went straight home. I Have slept with Karen several times since then In hotels, she said she is planning to divorce her husband and asked me to leave my GF for her. I have major guilt and my situation is getting worse.


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  • Do not break this woman's home! You need help and the savior Jesus can help you. Unburden your heart before him and receive salvation. Guilt will leave you. Begin to read the New Testament; google it in your phone and see that you will be fine. guilt is a monster that kills without leaving even a bone!

  • I read your narration with deep sense of empathy. A lot of folks have had enough confusion from a "confused world" to last for a life time! Lack of "personal identity" can bore oneself sick even to having suicide thoughts . Have I once considered suicide in my life? Yes .. . and indeed, many folks you see that walk the streets are full of challenges and pains that were inflicted or innate. In my own case, in my teens , I thought I will not be able to achieve anything because I was abused as a child (this is usually a trigger), lived in a home that always felt like an explosive device was about to ignite. I struggled with these feelings and tried to fill the void via alcohol and "street smokes". I found fake boldness that was transient. I envied and wanted to be like others. Well, I am an adult now, well educated, employed, married, had kids, drug/alcohol/smoke free, and really free from all my demons. How? Yes, I know that this will be the question in your heart. It sounded foolish and dreamlike but it was real. Someone gave me a copy of "New Testament and Psalms and proverbs"; a little blue covered book which could fit into my pocket. I began to read it from "The Gospel of John" (REALLY one can google it online and read) like he advised me. I love reading and it made sense. Well, I may not be able to tell you all that happened to me but I discovered that as I read it daily, I began to be attracted to and talk to the main character in the story; Jesus and it seemed like and old self of mine was dropping off daily. At some point , I was shocked when I was out with my friends and realized that I hadn't touched alcohol in the past 2 weeks! That was strange. And the stranger thing was that alcohol lost its appeal to me. In fact, it disgusted me. My friends told me that they will "give me just three months" and I will drink myself to stupor like before. well it has been years and I keep getting better; more pleasant than the person I ever tried to be.

  • Avoid Immoral Women

    1My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
    listen carefully to my wise counsel.
    2Then you will show discernment,
    and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
    3For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
    and her mouth is smoother than oil.
    4But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
    as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
    5Her feet go down to death;
    her steps lead straight to the grave.a
    6For she cares nothing about the path to life.
    She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.
    7So now, my sons, listen to me.
    Never stray from what I am about to say:
    8Stay away from her!
    Don’t go near the door of her house!
    9If you do, you will lose your honor
    and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
    10Strangers will consume your wealth,
    and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
    11In the end you will groan in anguish
    when disease consumes your body.
    12You will say, “How I hated discipline!
    If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
    13Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
    Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
    14I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
    and now I must face public disgrace.”
    15Drink water from your own well—
    share your love only with your wife.b
    16Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
    having s** with just anyone?c
    17You should reserve it for yourselves.
    Never share it with strangers.
    18Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
    Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
    19She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her b****** satisfy you always.
    May you always be captivated by her love.
    20Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
    or fondle the b****** of a promiscuous woman?
    21For the LORD sees clearly what a man does,
    examining every path he takes.
    22An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
    they are ropes that catch and hold him.
    23He will die for lack of self-control;
    he will be lost because of his great foolishness. PROVERBS 5

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