I hate being a stepdad!!!

I hate bein a f****** stepfather! It's the worst!!! I thought I knew what I was getting myself into but I had no f****** idea! A lot of s*** came to light when I got married that my wife never cared to mention. I was naive and got caught up in that honeymoon phase and made the stupid f****** mistake of never living together before marriage. The lie, steal, the 9 year old hides p*** clothes and I just flat out don't like him. He also still s*** his pants every now and then. It'd gotten to the point where the smell of pies would just set me off because he'd hide them so long that they'd start smelling like ammonia! I now remembered why I didn't have kids and I will be filing for divorce very soon! F*** this!! I used to be a world traveler but because I married into a ready made family I haven't been anywhere in three f****** years and it f****** sucks. They've drained my finances and I wake up every day miserable! F*** this I'm out. I feel guilty for leaving Because she truly is a good woman but I can't do it anymore. Well I'm off to the birthday dinner for this damn 13 year old where she felt the need to buy him a $500 f****** phone! Money we could put towards a trip or spe thing had we not had kids!!!

Dec 6, 2015

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  • Yo u knew what u was getting into, back out their life's you UN conditioned ape

  • "You knew what you were getting into"?? SERIOUSALLY?? Apparently you have never been a step-parent. Apparently you have never had the "privelige" of helping to raise children that would just as soon see you go away and never come back while at the same time holding their hand out EXPECTING you as the step-parent to give them what they want/need . Apparently you have never felt like you were simply being used to get these ungrateful, immature, and self-centered children raised and gone. Apparently you have not experienced the "joy" of helping to raise incredulous and smartass children that view you (step-parent) as nothing more than an uninvited houseguest. NOONE can possibly "know" what awaits them as a step-parent. It is an experience that noone can prepare you for. I hope for you that you never have to experience the "joys" of being a step-parent. When and if you do I imagine that your "views" and "opinions" on the subject will drastically change. Good luck...🙄

  • You're responsible for raising them. If you humiliate them for ***** their pants then they are going to hide it you a**hole

  • My sons dad isn’t his bio dad, but still his only dad. His bio dad never wants to meet him and has blocked me on everything. But my sons dad has been here since I was 9 weeks pregnant with him. So I wouldn’t call him a step dad so I don’t think he could relate with you

    BUT my boyfriend of 4 years ( as mentioned above) has 2 kids with a woman who still wants him. I suffer from severe stress and anxiety. So I told him off if he sees his kids, I just don’t want them around me or my kid. Because if I had to deal with them and the ex, I wouldn’t be with this man.

  • Without knowing more information it is hard to give "advice" concerning your situation. I can only tell you what I have have ALWAYS told my friends over the years. NEVER, NEVER, date or marry someone with kids. It just isnt worth what awaits you down the road. Being a step-parent (I have had 5 step-kids/3 marriages) just plain sucks! It doesn't matter what age the kids are or how "in love" that you are with their mom/dad. It is a VERY, VERY, VERY difficult road to go down and even more difficult to navigate a marriage through. You will find that the kids WILL FIND a way to rip your marriage apart and that "bio-parent" will ALWAYS see you as the "outsider". As a step-parent you will NEVER have an opinion and your wishes and your hopes/dreams will consistently be secondary to the kids. You will NEVER be viewed as anymore than a "newcomer" in THEIR family and you will ALWAYS be second BEHIND the kids. You will find yourself being FORCED to compete with the kids for attention from your spouse. (the kids "bio-parent) BELIEVE me when I say that it is humiliating to have to compete with CHILDREN to recieve the attention that you should be getting from your spouse. If that sounds like fun then maybe step-parenting is for you. If it doesn't sound like something that you want to undertake then I suggest that you "cut the strings" NOW and save yourself years of grief, frustration, and heartache. I only wish someone would have told me this years ago..😩...GOOD LUCK..👍

  • I made that mistake too, marrying a woman with two children thinking it could work. No, it really can't. Don't date/marry someone with children.

    I could fill volumes on all the damage I've taken being guilt tripped into being those kids (and their worthless father's) enabler under threat of retaliation. Especially with the oldest being ADD/Oppositional Defiant. Lying, stealing, you name it. My wife didn't have the guts to deal with her, to take her for therapy, and biodad was too busy smoking pot and being a bum to care so the problem got dumped in my lap. Everyone blaming me for this childs behavior, never mind that in our state custodial parents(my wife) are held accountable not stepparents. Everything was, and is, and will always be my fault.

    I got one child of my own from this marriage, but I had to give the majority of my time and money (private schools, etc) to the stepkids because I had to make up for the fact that their Dad didn't love them, etc. so when my child's turn came (honor student) I had very little left to give. :((

    I could go on and on, but I won't. I'll just say that no matter how nice the other person is, no matter how attracted you are, please please understand that this is only life you'll have; don't waste it by allowing yourself to be lured and manipulated into a soul-sucking career of supporting children that will have nothing but hate and disdain towards you for the rest of your life.

  • Yea, as a stepfather myself I TOTALLY agree with you and I can TOTALLY relate to your situation. My stepkids (both teenagers) just cause chaos and dysfunction in our family. Bio-Mom still sees them as innocent little babies that can do no wrong while in reality they (one boy- one girl/twins) are nothing more than immature, self-centered, incredulous, and smartass punk kids. I love their mom but the DAILY dysfunction that they cause and the way that "Mom" babies and coddles them at 16 years old is almost too much to watch and endure. I to thought that I could make this "blended family" thing work and be part of the family but in reality I think that I am just part of a plan by their mother to get them raised and gone. Sadly, by then however, the strain and friction that stepkids inflict upon the marriage will have destroyed any hope of their mother and I staying together.

  • MAN you got it right. My dumb ass married a mother of 3 at 23. Raised them for 11 years and got nothing from it after we split. Then my dumb ass did it again and now I'm going through h***! Her kids are so disrespectful and draining. DO NOT take on someone's kids no matter how hot the mom is. Its a complete waste of time and money. I want out of this h*** and can't wait to be free again!

  • God, I love hearing about someone besides me doing something stupid like marrying someone with kids and becoming a stepdad! Makes me feel ALMOST "normal". I have done it 3 times now for a total of 5 stepkids. No rewards, no appreciation, no recognition, just the feeling that I have been used to help raise someone elses children. Makes me feel like that I am only good for a paycheck. Stepkids (especially teens) are the absolute worst!! If your marriage with teen stepkids somehow survives then the resentment and distance that those step children caused during the marriage will most definitely destroy that marriage at a later date. If I could go back and change ONLY ONE THING in my life it would be to NEVER EVER date, much less marry anyone with children from another marriage.

  • Why did you do it 3 times then??

  • I think that I thought that the next time would be "different" and that I could learn from previous mistakes. Little did I know that nomatter how good your relationship is with the stepkids, that you will NEVER be more than just an outsider in their "family". When it comes right down to it, right or wrong, mom is ALWAYS going to side with her kids. That leaves good old stepdad on the outside looking in feeling like a damn fool for thinking he could actually be treated as a "leader" in the family and not just like another one of moms kids. Any other stepfather will know the humiliation of being viewed and treated like one of the kids. If you try and "assert" your place in the family you are just being a j***. If you step back and take a passive approach concerning the children you are ultimately categorized as a child yourself. Sadly, it truly is a no win situation.

  • All about carlay sukduds his milk. milk, milk. milick. his s**** in his milk. bull s**** in his milk. poppy opiate milk in his milk. his milk. addicted to money printing. addicted to his milk. addicted to send for the car milk duds poppy milk in his milk. s**** in his milk. milick. carlay in that car she lay. laid many a man between duds. all about carlay sukduds toxic foo f*** mouthful of poisons.

  • Wait until these kids turn 18......then hand them some gloves a forge their signature on a legally valid document allowing a boxing match. And then let that little b**** catch some hands

  • Yea, my stepkids just drain me of money $1 and $5 at a time. They have ZERO conceot of money and think if they want it, that they should have it. I am SO tired of supporting their lazy, entitled, self-centered a****. I live to see the day when their adult paycheck goes for rent and utilities and ONLY then will they realize that the $1 and $5 at a time ADDS UP! Until then I am stuck watching them put my wife and I in the poor house $1 at a time...😏

  • I'm a stepdad. Hands down the stupidest f****** thing I've ever gotten myself into...if you are a stepparent, you are absolutely 100% being used. I used to think about joining the French Foreign Legion, faking my own death, or just walking out of the house and not stopping until they find me face down in a drained pool somewhere. It takes two people on the same page to raise and discipline a child and you won't find that in a blended family or with parents who are divorced. I don't care what kind of superhero you think you are. We have a kid of our own together now so I choose to stay. To me it's an easy decision, be moderately miserable with boots on the ground in my kids life or go back to tackling clam with the potential for my kid to grow up like her mom or her sisters. At the end of the day kids these days are all s***. Doesn't matter if they're yours or someone else's, millennials really do suck.

  • No doubt!! Kids today, ESPECIALLY teens, are ungrateful, arragont, entitled, lazy, self-centered, immature individuals. They think the entire f****** world revolves around THEM AND THEIR WANTS!! When I was growing up that attitude would get your ass whipped with a paddle!! NO QUESTIONS ASKED!! Nowadays that attitude and behavior is just tolerated and considered "expressing yourself". We are S******* UP OUR KIDS BY LETTING THIS GO UNCHECKED! I hate kids (teenagers) nowadays. If you don't , just take some time to talk to one. You will soon begin to realize just how messed up and self-centered that they really are! Then try raising one as a stepdad and being forced to "swallow" their s*** in fear that their mom (the woman you love) will get p***** at you! Yea, it is not a pleasant situation to be in. My advice, NEVER NEVER NEVER marry anyone with kids from someone else. Love may be grand, but being a step-parent will rip tjat love to f****** shreds!!

  • Man I’ve been a stepdad for three years and had multiple step parents. It’s all f*****. The girl is a brat. She lies to us constantly and mom took an evening job so while I work 50+ a week I still hav to do all the parenting. This girl is a piece of S***. I loved being her stepdad but now it’s always calls from school, lies about everything and quite frankly I’m f***ing done. I love my wife and our two kids but the girl can go back to her s*** dad’s and get out of our life. She yells that at us when she doesn’t get her way and I’ve started telling her “pack your bags or shut up.”

  • As a stepson with 3 stepdads under my belt I proclaim that this whole stepfamily experiment is a waste. How anyone thinks this is a good idea in our sick broken nuclear family world is a fool.
    To all you stepdads out there: F*** OFF

  • EVERY stepdad, past and present that read your "rant" is laughing at you right now kid! You DO NOT have a f****** clue what it is like to take on the responsibility of stepkids simply because you fell in love with their mother. Yea, we could have walked away but we didnt. We stayed around, tolerated your punk ass ungrateful attitude and helped your mother raise your dumb ass until you were mature enough (some stepkids NEVER mature as they are stuck in a cycle of blaming someone else for their problems) to take care of yourself. Some of us stepdads were just "bled dry" by your mothers that used us to help raise their kids and when they were done with us we (husbands/stepdads) were nothing more than a bag of trash put next to the curb. On behalf of stepfathers EVERYWHERE you are welcome for the food we put in your stomach and the roof we put over your punk ungrateful ass all the while feeling like we were just being used by your mother to get your ass raised and out of the house. Yea, news flash, mom wanted your ass gone to. You were a pain in her butt also. We stepfathers will NEVER get a "thank you" from ungrateful stepkids like you and honestly we don't want one. EVERYONE of us stepfathers just want YOU to become a stepdad one day and to go through the same h*** on earth that your punk ass put us through. KNOWING that the odds are good that oneday your punk ass will experience the "joy" of being a stepfather puts a smile on our face and a sense of justice in our heart. GOOD LUCK YOU PUNK ASS KID!....😂😂😂😂😂

  • To the "stepson of three stepdads":

    You're attitude is exactly the problem.

    But hopefully you'll have the smarts not to feel sorry for some woman and her kid(s) and waste your life like those 3 stepdads did.

    And if you ever have kids of your own, make sure you're the shining example of the perfect father and husband your stepdads (who were dumb to marry your mom) can never be, or you'll end up divorced and YOUR kids end up just like YOU, and YOU will be to blame!

    Good luck!

  • LMAO!! Could not have said it better!! THANK YOU!! This "kid" will more than likely be a step parent one day and then they will realize just what a pain in the ass that stepkids can be just like they probably were to their step parent! ONLY THEN will they realize that ungrateful and self-centered stepkids are the problem; NOT the step parents.

  • We love f***ing your single
    Mothers you f*** off little b**ch

  • Then you cry into the bottle when they make you take responsibility you little Billy kid, should have stuck with f****** goats you loser.

  • What on earth does your "comment" even mean?? It makes no sense at all. Maybe you should either stop "drunk texting" or buy a dictionary to help you with your words...🙄

  • We just hate their kids

  • No doubt!!! I used to feel bad for saying that I "hated" my stepkids. (Both teenagers now) I have learned however that their self-centerdness, their attitude of entitlement, and their TOTAL lack of respect for ANYONE has made it much easier for me to accept the "white hot hate" that I have for them. If my marriage to their mother survives their teen years I will be shocked as each day they seem to give me another reason to just pack up and move on.

  • You're all wastemen, get back into the wilderness - after cleaning your filthy a**holes.

  • People could probably understand and reply intelligently to your "comments" if you would actually compose and submit complete sentences. "WASTEMEN/"WILDERNESS"/ "CLEAN YOUR A-HOLE"??? I would suggest that if you cannot articulate your thoughts into words that this forum may not be for you. How sad for you...😩

  • Also tell your w**** mother to eat it, succubus b**** can take care of your punk ass till either of you croaks

  • Your mom will die first tho lol

  • Ditto that. You go f*** yourself too and try not to get your first h***** knocked up. Loser

  • Dude, your feminist mother and her feminist comrades DESTROYED the "nuclear family".

    You are a victim of the NF's destruction, not a victim of the NF itself, because you never really had one.

  • As a current stepdad to teenagers I will not resort to using curse words as they only show a lack of intelligence. What I will do is to wish for you that you NEVER become a stepdad. You may think that you have the "inside track" to being a good step parent because if your "experiences", but I ASSURE YOU that you do not. Being a step parent just plain sucks and it is ungrateful and entitled step kids that make it so VERY miserable. I wish you better luck that what 99.9% of stepdads expeeience.

  • We wish you’d f*** off to you ungrateful little f***. No one wants you. Not the three stepdads or the real one. That’s why the f***** bounced. You are a waste of existence.

  • F*** off you ungrateful p****

  • Little b****.

  • They all took your lil ungrateful punk ass in. Have some gratitude you lil b****

  • Yep, TOTALLY agree. Step kids are f****** UNGRATEFUL!! I have two teenage step kids and they think that they are OWED everything that they WANT. I fault their mom for this attitude as they were at her own admission "coddled" for years after she divorced their dad. However, that doesn't change the FACT that they are entitled and ungrateful. My only joy and "payback" comes in KNOWING that they will BOTH have a tough adult life thinking that the world owes them EVERYTHING for simply existing!! That sounds horrible to say but I hate them and how they have come between me and their mom. It could not happen to two more deserving brats!! That is assuming that they actually EVER leave home. Some days I wonder if that will ever happen....😔...For now I cling to hope that one day their mom (my wife) realizes that they intentionally sabatoge our marriage. I wish I had known 8 years ago what I know now. This stepdad crap that I got myself into to two ungrateful entitled brats would have NEVER happened!

  • I am a srep father at the begining everything was great cause i did not have any contact with them however things have changed and now we have to take into consideration his opinion that is something that really sucks i dont wanna ask him what to do that s*** is really killing my marriage

  • You are retarded, kys

  • I have been a step father for 20 years now it f****** sucks the wife's daughter chose a druggie dumb f*** i thought when i finally raised them i would be done but h*** no its just starting now there are grand children i have to help raise now the f****** daughter has no one to help her when her husband gets physical with her my step son has a horrible wife my step daughters husband was sleeping with my stepsons wife they wont leave each other they just bring home the same old bull**** over and over again it is taking my life.

  • Personally as a step kid this what would be a call out for help. You need to sit down with your step kids after finding evidence or something like catching the terrible wife and the terrible husband and remember it’s h****** your step kids too. Not only that their children, your grandkids. They need you man. So if I were you I would get evidence, sit down with your kids talk to them softly and show them “evidence” or whatever it is you’re gonna use. Yes they will be upset, but they would rather know the truth then keep living a lie. Yes they won’t be happy but then they will meet newer better people who will love their kids and them and change their life around. You have the power to help change their lives but instead you complain. If you do this that is a major step of showing you care. Something I wish my stepdad would show. Mine had never said I love you. But I’m sure you probably have. You don’t want hem to live horribly so fix it and save them.

  • Uh, his comment was quite clear as to why what you said won't work.

  • I hear ya dude. My 16 y/o step son is the most ungrateful little SOB. I've raised him the past 11 years. He alkie/drug addict father dropped dead of a heart attack 5 years ago and he still idolizes the guy while I get no appreciation for raising him whatsoever. I'm just counting the 1.5 years he's got left in school and I hope like h*** he's out.

  • Get out before you knock her up

  • F*** being a step parent I did it for four years if I didnt lay down to make him I wont raise them

  • I have to agree I do overtime and I am always broke her daughter is a spoiled b**** and shows no respect to anyone. The only reason why her daughter aka respects me because i told her I will kick her ass out and if her mom dont like it she can go too.

  • Milfs are overrated as f***

  • Yes they are. The older I get, the more I realize that. I love my wife but I hate my stepkids even more. The price I pay for being a stepdad is just not worth the ocassional "alone time" that my wife and I get. Sad but true. I wish I had known this 8 years ago...😔

  • A warning to all mothers who come here to read: they may act paternal but there's a cost and the cost can be infinite depending on how they feel at any moment. This is not a healthy mindset or social dynamic to raise a human into.

  • Yes, single mothers often have an un-healthy mindset; they're out on prowl looking for some decent man to guilt trip and take advantage of.

    With a mother setting that kind of example it's easy to understand why step kids are so awful; they're just copying "mommy".

    And you're correct, the cost to that decent man can be infinite. He could have had a decent wife and a good marriage with children of his own that love him for who he is rather than what he earns/owns.

    If you had a son, would you want to see him treated that way by some women with children from another man?

    Of course you would.

  • WHAT??? What does that even mean??? I doubt ANYONE understands your "comments". Your "jibberish" and your lack of using the English language to compose and articulate thoughts is so VERY obvious.

  • "The price I pay for being a stepdad is just not worth the occasional "alone time" that my wife and I get."

    No s***, sherlock. That's why the smart man goes hunting childless, hopefully a virgin, bride. Then you have all the "alone time" you want/need.

  • Agreed 100% too much work no reward

  • Agreed dude. Time for you to jet out of there. If you stay you will punish them and you

  • I feel bad for that kid. Pooping his pants at the age of 9 ? He must have a problem

  • Ikr he could be sick or be slow

  • I don't think she's all that great of a mother if the kid is still pooping his pants at 9, that is usually a sign of molestation (taught to me by an FBI profiler)! You need to get out of there before you get blamed for something you didn't do; not to mention you could be free! Good luck!

  • Or the kid could be sick, can be slow.

  • The fact that they lie and steal tells me they were not brought up right, you can't fix it, you can only save yourself and you know I'm right

  • Raising kids are not that easy b******.. you should have kept quiet with your d*** you d******.. why dont you use your hands instead of women..?

  • Lol

  • Why don't you suck my d*** b****! You real big talking behind a keyboard. If you don't like the post you can't get ass f***** by a railroad spike

  • Wow!!

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