I'm divorced, with a son. My girlfriend is wonderful, and we love each other but she only loves me. She says she can't think of the future with me because she isn't ready to raise a child, I get that completely to be honest, I'm a Dad and half the time my son is going so crazy even I don't want to raise a child! However it's starting to affect our relationship now we've been together for a while. She wants to be more spontaneous, go on random trips, nights out, whatever but obviously there are days and times I can't do that. I have to be there for emergencies and the like too and it's getting to her. It's getting to me too, it's like we're both holding back, just in case. Me in case she finds it all too much and leaves for a less complicated situation and her because she doesn't want to get disappointed by me having to cancel, putting my sons needs above hers in some way, or her parents not approving.
We don't want to break up but it seems like an unspoken agreement we have is that we'll break up eventually. So we're both just biding our time and being happy by ignoring the future at the moment.
Life is hard!