How to stop being Possessive

I've been in a serious relationship for about 7 months and it is the best thing to ever happen to me. I've never connected with someone on all levels ever in my life.

Only problem is I get really jealous and possessive. I used to blame it on him being "flirty" and overly friendly, but isn't it my problem for being insecure? It's impossible for him to avoid females, right? It's not logical, yet I still get jealous and possessive!

I'm lucky that he understands and makes jokes about it, but I know at some point he will grow tired of my insecurities. I'm just not sure how to go about it. Believe me, I don't enjoy being jealous or possessive!

Any help?



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  • Sometimes you have to trust your intuition. That if you don't trust him, it's because he's giving you reason to not trust. For instance, him being flirty..there's flirty and then there is blatant crossing the line. It would be interesting to ask him or even see how he would feel if you were doing the same thing he was doing, how would he like it? There's a point to where it's disrespectful to you and your relationship. And he can control that. It would be impossible and a little odd for him to totally avoid females. But you're not asking him to not talk to females, but at least not act like he's single and available when doing so. He may be doing it, just to get a rise out of you. But still that's not cool. It is more than jealousy and possessiveness that rises, it creates trust issues for you. Because he may want to see how far he can take something. He can't have his cake and eat it too.

  • What the.... projecting much ?

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