If he is cheating is there hope?
My husband doesn't know what I've discovered. He has been having an affair literally right under my nose with my best friend. I welcome this woman into my home regularly. I've trusted her and my husband together. She is close to my adult kids, and we are close to her teen son. I went to bed one evening with a headache, and left them watching a movie. I got up to go to the washroom and thought I heard a moan or grunt. Whatever I heard it sounded out of place. I sneaked to where they were in the TV room and she was on the floor sucking him off while he sat on the couch. He was so engrossed in their filthy act that he didn't notice me.
I immediately felt rage, confusion, fear, sick, and as if they had both stabbed me in the back. But for some reason I didn't stop them. I can't even say why. I didn't charge into that room and demand it stop. I quietly slipped back to our marital bed in tears. I thought I was going to throw up.
He's been a good husband of 17 years. We have two young adults. He's been a great father. He works hard. He takes care of me when I've been unwell. We've faced a lot of hardships and come through them together. Our love life has had ups and downs, and I am maybe not as interested as he is.
I knew he was close with my friend, as am I. We all enjoy her in our lives and home.
If he's doing this to me is there hope? Do you think he already has one foot out the door? Do you think he intends to leave me or is she just for s**?
I am so confused, and I know I have to do something I am just not sure what. I've been avoiding my friend and watching my husband like a hawk.