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Step kid getting on my nerves
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I've been in his daughters for 3. They are 13 year old girls and are little **! They were never taught mannerisms like the thank yous and pleases. They talk back to their dad consistently. Neither parents believe in smacking them. Im embarrassed to take them around my family because they are so rude.
I'm 25, have a full time job and am a part time student. I gave up my weekends to watch them while their dad goes to work. It's like pulling teeth to get them to clean the ** house. It's either one will talk back or the other will totally ignore me and not do a thing. I have a lot of patience but my boyfriend thinks i need more. They're dad doesn't like them home alone because one of them snuck out while i was at church. I feel like i have alot on my plate and as if im getting the ** end of the stick. Id like to make this work but idk...
Your 25 and have to deal with 3 kids dump him dont waste your life looking after his baggage...
Oh but men need to date single mothers right?
You've been around them for 3 years and nothing has changed. The cleaning thing...seriously, who wants to clean especially at 13. Sure, it's annoying, but can you blame them? And it seems unfair to make you make them clean. What do you get for babysitting them? The parents need to teach their children manners. The fact that your bf does not see that as necessary or important is concerning. Kind of a red flag. What's your relationship like with them otherwise? Would you like it to be better? If you are marrying their father it would be nice since they will be in your life for a long time. You need to bond with them. Think there are other challenges here then what you have mentioned.
You and the boyfriend need to lay down the law. A good paddling of both of them is a good place to start.
Let me see if I got this right. You're 25 and you're having to take care of two 13 year-olds? That's a tremendous amount of responsibility and obligation for which you're not accountable other than that you're your boyfriend's convenience. Sounds noble but I doubt for all your efforts that anyone's going to pin a medal on you.