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Spanking a child...
I feel so ** mad right now. My father spank my nephew, do you think that is a good idea?
He pushed his little sister into something. She was crying and he got spanked.
Is that child abuse? I think it is, my niece is okay now. My nephew is crying himself to sleep though, it's sad.
I think spanking a child is bad. I consider it child abuse.
Spanking isn't illegal in most states as long as it's not done is some sort of perverted way or beating them black and blue. You don't mention the children's parents but you should tell them you're aware of what your father is doing and let the children's parents decides what's best. Perhaps they are supportive of corporal punishment or, if not, they can handle your father. So unless someone is leaving marks, bruises and cuts, or making it degrading and/or sexual, you kind of have to keep your opinion to yourself.
Spanking NOT beating never killed anyone. Although I always put up a ** of a fight against (think crying, screaming ** murder, and trying to get away like like my life depended on it), sometimes a few smacks across the **, even with a belt, was the ONLY THING that would finally calm me the ** down. Why? Because though I wasn't a "bad" child in any way unless you call being spoiled bad, I didn't do well with uncertainty at all and really only started to get into things and act bratty, when I was receiving conflicting messages. I settled down when finally after much cajoling, reasoning ,and threatening had failed I received a very clear message i.e. spanking that "put me back in my place" or so to speak. It is not acceptable for your nephew to hit his sister, he was spanked for doing so and had that limit reenforced, and he will be a more settled and well-behaved child for it.
It is a good thing to spank.
I saw a fifteen-year-old kid shove his five-year-old sister down the stairs because she stepped on his coat which was on the steps. His father was nearby and after he checked his daughter he grabbed his son by the shirt and in a screaming red-faced bawling out he told his son to never put his hands on his sister again. The boy was ashen faced and he nearly got his ** whipped which he richly deserved.
I was spanked as a child. I'd take a spanking over detention or grounding any day. Spanking taught me I'd crossed the line. I respected my parents who I knew loved me. Actually when being spanked I felt really embarrassed that I had let them down. The spanking although painful was over pretty quick and almost a relief in a way because after it was like I could start again.
Times change. Not long ago it was seen as good for the child to be given a good spanking and told to apologize.
We judge things by the standard of our time.
Personally I think we should do a lot more spanking and a lot less shouting.
Today we are all wound up about spanking.
Yet we have harsher and harsher jail sentences.
It depends on what he pushed his sister into. If he deliberately tried to hurt or injure his sister the punk deserves to have the ** whipped out of him.
Spanking - sure there's a point to where kids act out and you want to wring their necks. But if children mind their parents or sitters, it shouldn't get to that point. As spanking okay? There are ways to reprimand a child without laying hands on a child. And I don't think spanking someone else's child is never okay. An adult should be able to control their impulses and be able to compose themselves in order to punish a child appropriately. Kids fight with each other. Your niece and nephew sound young. A young child is going to understand and respond to voice first. That's scary when an adult yells. Spanking - was it a tap on the bottom or did it leave an imprint or overly excessive. Because that's going to be where it crosses the line. But your father should have also said to his grandson sternly not to push his sister. And then have him sit in a corner for like 3-5 minutes in time out. Your dad should then sit with his grandson - and in a calm manner ask him if he understands why he was given a time out and then have him then apologize to his sister. The time out thing is either going to work or it won't. It also depends on how punishment is dealt in his own home. Because some parents don't give kids boundaries. It's terrible that he's crying himself to sleep. It probably has more to do with being scared then pushing his sister. It would still be good for your dad to go and talk to him. The worse thing would be for him to be afraid of him.
That's never ok your father has anger issues email me president2k5@icloud.com
If spanking stops the child from hurting other kids, that's a good thing. I used to spank but I found it doesn't work so I take away things or give time outs now. I am not going to judge what works for another parent, remember you are not looking after that kid 24/7 and you don't know their personalty. I suggest you get over it. Child abuse is VERY different, it's beating a child out of anger not trying to help them through punishment.