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In the closet
Sooooo, My little sister came home from college for Christmas break and I have been struggling with something for a while now, She brought her "Room mate" with her and since we only have one spare room they were totally fine with sharing, I would later find out why.
She came and stayed with us and I never thought much about them sharing a room but Christmas eve my husband and I were sneaking around putting presents under the tree and he went downstairs to get some stuff hidden in the storage room, I didn't think anything of it until he came back up empty handed, I asked where the presents were and he said "I'll go get them in a bit", I told him I wanted to get done and go to bed and he told me he couldn't go back down for a bit, I asked what the ** he was talking about and he was being very elusive with his answers so I stormed off to get them myself, He tried to stop me and I was about to find out why.
I snuck downstairs past our kids rooms and as entered the storage room I could hear voices and sounds from the spare room, Instantly I panicked, the sounds were unmistakeable, Absolutely, 100%, No way to mistake it they were having **, As I snuck away I heard "Oh god yes", I quickly went back upstairs and stared at my husband who was sitting on the couch looking like he was in trouble for something.
Now I am not against that at all, I feel its your own choice and whatever you want to do is up to you but you also have to understand that when it comes as a shock like that and its someone you have known all their life and never once got the inkling that it was something they were into, it comes at you like a punch in the face, I stared at my husband and he stared at me, Neither of us really knowing what to say, Finally I sat down and looked at him and said "Do we just wait", He just shrugged his shoulders.
I looked at him and he said "I take it you didn't know?", I said "No, Obviously I didn't know, don't you think it would have come up some time in the last 10 years we have been married?", I sat and waited about half an hour and snuck back downstairs and got the presents and as I passed the room I could still hear giggling, Me and my husband finished up and went to bed, As I laid there wide awake my loving husband of course tried poking me with his **, I rolled over and said "really...You really think that is going to happen right now", After a short...Very short discussion as to why it wasn't happening he went to sleep.
The next two days were super awkward as I watched for any signs I could have missed but I didn't see anything, How is it possible I didn't know, As I explained to my husband its not that I am upset that she is with a girl but its that I didn't know, Why didn't she tell me, Why didn't I pick up on something.
I would not worry about it too much. Seriously, my sister did the same thing when she was in college. Her and I (brother) were always closer than our other brothers and sisters. She went away to college and was having ** with her girl roommate too. As far as I knew she always liked guys and had boyfriends. Years later after she was married and 3 kids, we were sitting at her house drinking (just her and I) and she was like "I never told you this, but..." I was shocked and ** because she never told me, but she explained how she was just experimenting and that's all it was. I may have just been jealous too because I thought her roommate was ** hot.
Maybe it something she only discovered about herself, when commencing College. Going to College is about education, but also exploring different facets to a persons identity. Maybe shed just having fun, no strings attached.
I can understand your shock, but don't fret about. Your sisters personal life is her own business. I'm sure she'll disclose anything worth disclosing to you, when she's ready. But at the moment, she's having fun and enjoying her youth/freedom that comes with it :)
I get that but she is my sister and I don't understand why she would hide it from me, Its not like I didn't go to college.
True.
But did you experiment sexually with other women, at College? If you did, have you told your sister about those experiences?
Plus, everyone is different.
Maybe your sister prefers to keep this part of her life private, which is fair enough. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, regardless if they're relatives or not.
I'm sure she'll discuss this with you, whenever she's ready to. Try not to force it, question it and just be supportive/respectful of your sister's privacy, she may appreciate it.
No I didn't, I definitely could have and had chances, I get that for some girls it is a time to experiment and "Find yourself", That is not the issue, I was just a bit hurt that she wouldn't tell me or that she put so much effort into hiding it from me.
Understandable. But get over it and move on. What's done is done. She'll tell you when she's ready to.