I'm almost 22 and I've never been in a relationship. I'm not obese or ugly...just extremely uninspired. It's gotten to the point that I'm almost afraid to start anything because it'd be humiliating to admit that, at my age, I've never had s** or even kissed anyone.

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  • Don't feel sad or embarrassed. BUT to make things change you need to change. In my view the first thing to change is thinking. Start to look around at others and what makes them attractive. What they wear. How they talk. Then start to make some changes. My suspicion is wear slightly smarter clothes. We can become lazy in clothes and that is read by others as boring. If your a girl that means (in my opinion) shorter skirts.

    Look at how you speak. Do you have strong opinions that you express forcefully? Tone it down! Do you stay quiet and have no opinions? Well that's boring and actually intimidating at the same time so practice getting into the conversation.

  • There is no need to feel embarrassed or humiliated. It's not a competition. You do things at your own pace and when you're ready. And you've waited this long, find someone that you feel connected to instead of just doing it to do it. You don't have to tell anyone, unless you want to. But you have to put yourself out there make yourself available to meet someone. It can be scary to put yourself out there. But it shouldn't. If you go to church, look into social events. Put yourself on some dating sites. Don't get discouraged. Dating can be tough. Tell friends you're ready to date. Think about who you would like to meet. Good luck!!!

  • Good advice. I'd disagree on one thing though. It is a competition.

  • Then you're a loser despite not being "obese or ugly." that's got to sting

  • Good advice :)

  • Why pressurise yourself and judge yourself based on, what the world would think about you.

    No one else matters, in regards to your personal life. What's wrong with; never been kissed, never been in a relationship and still being a virgin at 22?

    You take your time and I'm sure the right person will come along, that will be worth changing those "never tried, to accomplished by someone you love"

    I had my first kiss at 18 and remained a virgin until 24, when I lost it to someone I was dating and still in a relationship now. If I followed peer pressure and so forth, I would've been messing around with lads at 12 years old. But I didn't and I'm proud of that.

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