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I'm in love with my brothers best friend
I've fallen in love with my brothers best friend. I've liked him for awhile now. Him and I get along amazingly and are extremely alike. He is like a guy version of myself. That's why my brother became friends with him in the first place. Because he was so much like me. When I am around him my brother is always shaking his head at how alike we are because we do the exact same things. So it's only natural I would like him. Just recently I decided to talk to my brother and his other friends about how I was feeling, and my brother of course thought it would be weird at first.. but everyone else said they seen how we were together and eventually my brother said he seen it too and agreed he did notice how well we got along and how we looked at each other. They all agreed to help me talk to him. To see what he thought about it.. so they talked to him first. I don't really know what was said.. but when he did come over to talk to me he sorta told me that it would be weird because I was his best friends sister so he's never really seen me that way. Which hurt... because the whole time he's closed off the possibility that I could be the one that could make him happy, just because I was his best friends sister. He's always said that no girl wanted him... but right there in front of him was a girl that cared and wanted him and would treat him right. He even said he was oblivious to me even liking him. I just wish he would see that I was serious and that he would give me a chance. But I never even got an opportunity... he did promise that it wouldn't be weird between us though and that he would take everything that I said into consideration. I just hope that maybe he won't be so blind about my feelings. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? And as for my brother, at first he wasn't very happy, about me liking his best friend.. but then he sort of realized that if I did end up with him. Then at least he would know that I would be treated right and that he trusted who I was with. So that sorta changed his view a bit on the situation even though he still isn't fond of everything.
I know it's not the outcome you had hoped for, but it sounds promising. Maybe not right now, but sometime in the future you two could really have a chance. All you can do is wait it out and hope that this guy comes around, and if it's not him someone else. He probably will, it will just take time. He probably has thought about it, but maybe what he's thinking is if it doesn't work out with you, does he lose his best friend too, will it be weird coming over..etc. I'm guessing you guys are in high school? It's a tough thing to convince someone that things won't change. Your best bet is to put the torch away for now and live your life. He knows how you feel. If you force it, it most likely will fail. You should date other guys. I don't like playing games, but maybe when he comes over..don't be overly flirty and friendly. You've probably been paying him a lot of attention since you like him. Back off a lot. Be nice, but don't be over eager to hang out. He'll notice the attention is gone and may get it. Or even if you date other guys, he may notice that and realize that he may have feelings for you. He may begin to look at you in a different way.
I understand,..I have tried to let my feelings go. But it's a hard thing to do. I know it does sound like we are in highschool, but I'm actually 23. My brothers friend is 20. As much as I would love for it to work out. I don't know if it would be possible. He just joined the military... and will be shipped out soon... which is why I'm thinking he has stayed away from any kind of relationship...because he didn't want to hurt someone by leaving.