My husband and I had a small dinner party last night with another couple, Mike and Julie. We've been friends for 15 years, but they recently moved back to town, so we hadn't seen them in a long time. The food was great, the weather was perfect, and we had a great time. Everything was fine until the end.
As Mike and Julie were getting ready to leave, Mike went out to his car to take back some leftover food. My husband was chatting with Julie by the door. He gave her a brief hug (not a problem) and then (big problem, imo) gave her a kiss on the mouth that included some tongue. Julie looked surprised, but smiled and simply said, "Whoa." It was also clear that she kind of kissed back, albeit reluctantly.
I saw everything from about 30 feet away, as I was watching from the kitchen. I didn't say anything at first, because I was blown away by how inappropriate my husband was. When Mike and Julie were gone, I lit into my husband and asked, "Can you tell me what that was about?" He was like, "What?" I told him that he knew damn well "what."
We argued for about an hour. He said it is no big deal to give a good friend a goodbye kiss. I said it's no big deal if it is a quick peck on the cheek, but that it was totally horrendous to slip her tongue. I made him sleep on the couch, but even today, he still feels like he did nothing wrong.
I'm beyond mortified. I don't know whether to talk to Julie about this, or tell Mike about what happened (he was outside at the time), or simply let it go. I don't think it is a stretch that my husband has the hots for Julie, which really upsets me.