Confused and unsure of wife's friends intentions
My wife and I had become friendly with the neighbors for the four or so years they lived next to us. Close enough that we shared house keys etc....
The husband was ok, somewhat aloof. The wife was more gregarious and my wife and her became close. I was also more of a friend to her than her husband as well. We both have 3 yr olds and they played together.
They moved in Dec. But stayed in town so not far.
I was always respectful and decent towards the wife. She is very pretty and i do admit that in my opinion she is very hot.
Over the last year I began to notice something's that just seemed off with her. Maybe there were other actions before that, that I didn't pick up on.
I noticed that she would bend over like right next to me in a loose shirt she was wearing and would drop so low that if I looked I would prob see the zipper on her jeans. Out of respect I never looked. Boy I wanted to though, to be honest. This happened several times.
She would also come out and we would run into each other and chat. She knows that I smoke and would be out front a lot. Sometimes she would text late and ask if i was up then say shes going out for a smoke. We lived in condos.
I started going out back more( not because of her) and she would come around back saying that she was looking for the stray cats and then see me. She never seemed suprised. Was day and nights times. A few times during the day as we were just chatting I could swear that she was looking right at my crotch. One of those lingering stares.
There is much more to it but I am trying to keep it short. Lol
So they moved about 8 months ago. The first time I saw her at her new place to pick up my oldest daughter. (She got her off the bus for us). She threw her arms around me hugged me telling me that she " missed me so much! "
That was the first time she ever hugged me. Ok kinda the first time. Once another neighbor got too close...coming on to her. Nothing happened. She told the husband be he did nothing. In telling me about it she played it out for me. Pretending she was him and I was her. She told me that it was ok because she was comfortable around me. She came up behind me just like he did. Pressed her body against me with her face near my right ear. It wasn't perverted the way she did it and it was not summer so a jacket or two between us.
The second time I picked up, she took me on a tour of the house from her bedroom to the basement. Then while far enough away from the kids she told me something's of a very personal nature. Told me that even her husband doesn't know and made me promise not to tell anyone else.
On Fathers day she wished me a good one and sent that throwing a kissy face emoji.
Not sure if that really meant anything but in the context who knows.
One time when dropping off some of her childrens dvds for my kids to watch she mentioned that it took her longer because she had the seperately the p*** that she said was mixed in with it??
Ok so the most recent thing was that after dropping my wife and kids off after a few days at the beach, they went in and as I looked on she kissed my neck and said good bye all smiles.
Like I said there is some more to it all, but what I am asking is...is this all just in my head or am I am being a typical male moron to what she's up to/wants??
Bear in mind all of the interactions I wrote about all happened when my wife wasn't around or close by. Also is has been in the span of the last 10 months or so. Before that maybe I never recognized any actions on her part, maybe there were none before that. Don't know for sure.
I would really love to hear any input that anyone has.
Thank you for taking your precious time with my issue.