New Year's Downer
I've been dating this beautiful woman for about 3 months. I'm so in love with her it's beyond words. I've never felt like this about another person. She's in grad school, super smart, perfect body, and we've had virtually no problems until yesterday, when we went out for a New Year's celebration. We're both 24.
We went downtown to a club and no fewer than five guys came up to her and said things like "Haven't seen you in a while," or "How can I get back in touch with you," or "I loved hangin' with you," or "I really miss you." Two were Hispanic, one was white, and two were black. (We're white, btw.)
I asked her who these guys were, and she admitted that a couple were former boyfriends, but she wouldn't really elaborate beyond that. She got really defensive when I said "So you like black and/or brown d***?" She told me to shut up and get over it, that she loves me only, but that I was being a drunken fool.
We left early and rode home in near silence. She was upset, I was upset, but I still asked her "Did you s**** all of those guys?" She said she wasn't going to talk about it, and made me sleep on the couch when we got to her apartment.
We argued about it more the next morning. I asked her how many guys she's been with, whether she did threesomes or orgies, how many times she's had DP, etc., but she was fighting with me all the way.
I told her that I want to marry her, but she needs to be honest. She said, "I'm not looking to get married today, a-hole" and that just makes me more upset. She should have been more accepting and welcoming. I told her that I didn't appreciate that she's hiding things from her past from me.
Am I justified in being upset?