Hubby Likes Bigger Females - My Weight Gain Journey
Hi, I'm a 41 y/o Very happily married female. I was always skinny but had very wide hips and bigger thighs, started dating my future hubby when I was 18 and met him via a blind date.
I had never like being so flat chested with wide hips and bigger thighs, but he seemed to really like my bigger hips and thighs. I didn't think much of it at the time.
Over the years I had three kids and during each pregnancy as I got bigger out relationship became more passionate.
After I had each baby I would work to loose the baby weight as fast as I could and each time his passion for me seemed to fade. He was still a sweet and loving husband but just was not a tiger in bed or always wanting to touch me.
After the third baby was born I had my tubes tied and we settled into the married with kids doldrums. He was still a sweet guy and a great dad but it was more like we were roommates that lovers and I resorted to reading romance novels with wine in the tub.
One day I decided to have the kids spend the night at my sisters so we could have a date night. We went out to a light dinner and a movie and then came home and I tried to cuddle up and get hubby to kiss. He was nice but not that interested and I broke down and started to cry.
He asked if I was ok?
I said NO.
I asked if he still loved me?
He said "OMG yes I do"
Then I said though my tears "Then why aren't you passionate for me like you used to be? When I was a big, fat and pregnant you were Mr. EverReady now when I am slim and fit (I was at the time 5'6" 130 34B 26 38) you don't seem to have any interest in me!
He got a frightened and shocked look on his face (he never gets flustered) and looked down.
I was getting more emotional and was cry and almost screaming "You don't love me any more do you? are you having an affair?
He looked up and said OMG no... I love you.
I was so confused, emotional and a bit angry and said "then what's wrong?"
There was a long silence and then he look up and had teared up and he then told me something that left me speechless "I love you, but when you were heavier during pregnancy and right after you were so so sexy".
I was stunned and after a few second composed myself and snapped at him "OMG you liked me being a fat pregnant cow!"
I could see the hurt in his eyes at my response... Then I felt horrible... He had just told me his innermost feelings and I snapped at him.
I tried to reel back in my comment. I,I well I had no idea you like that (I was trying to be apologetic). You, you really liked me heavier?
He looked up eyes welled up on the verge of tears and said "yes, I loved you heavier. I really did"
Things the rest of the evening were awkward and we just went to bed and watched TV and don't really talk.
I had to word so hard to get my pre-kids body back and was proud of it. I had given up my favorite things to get it back (Chocolate, Pies/Cakes, Cookies, Pasta, breads, red meat and potatoes).
I though about it a lot that day and when we got home that evening and were in bed watching TV I asked him if he REALLY was serious about liking me heavier?
He looked over and me took my hand and looked me in the eyes and told me "He was very serious and he LOVED my body when I was heavier"
I said "so you want me to gain some weight?"
He looked at me with an unusually expression said "I really would"
I said "how much weight?"
He said "Well at least 25 pounds, maybe more if you like it, but you can stop and loose it if you don't. Please just try it for me."
I thought well even at 5'6" 155 I wouldn't be huge and would be about the size of a lot of women my age (35)
I said "ok, I will try it"
He smiles and hugged me and said "I love you, you will look so amazing heavier".
The next day I went o the store and picked up some things I hadn't eaten in ages (Peanut M&M's, Oreos, Mixes to makes cakes and brownies, things to make pie fillings, potatoes and fixins, and some steaks). I just started to snack and eat what I wanted when I wanted at first.
Over the next weeks and months I started to get heavier clothing tighter, bra cups fuller and went from size 8 to size 10 to size 12. I had not stepped on a scale in months.
As the weeks and months went by and I got noticeable heavier and stopped going to Spin and Yoga I really liked having more free time. I also did not have to listen to my so called "friend" telling me I was getting chubby.
Things are home were getting better and better. Husband was not only passionate again he could not do enough for me. He did more cleaning, cooking and even some of the laundry.
In the bedroom it was like when we were dating or when I was pregnant, he was a tiger and I loved it.
My size 12 mom jeans were getting pretty snug so one evening before bed I undressed and decided to get on the scale and see how close to 155 I was getting. I stepped on the electronic bathroom scale and it flashed 168.
Hubby was brushing his teeth and I gasped "OMG"
Hubby said "what'd wrong?"
I said I'm "168!!!"
He came over and hugged me and said "Are you ok?"
I said "I didn't thing I had gained this much"
He said "It looks great on you! But I'll understand if you want to loose with though"
My mind was racing my heart was beating so fast... I realized I was actually turned on that I had gained more weight that I had intended to.
I look into his eyes and I knew he was expecting me to say "I'm starting to diet tomorrow and going back to spin and yoga classes"
I had a flush of excitement was over me and I looked my husband in the eyes and said "Sweetie I don't want to loose weight, would be it ok if I tried to gain 50 more pounds?"
He looked as I could have knocked him over with a feather.
I said "I'm serious, I'm so turned on by my bigger body and that it excited you, thank you thank you thank you" and I hugged him so tight.
That was over 5 years ago and I'm now 316 pounds and loving it and we BOTH and happy and still want me to gain more weight!