I married a girl with a toddler, because I was so in love with her I figured I’d do anything in the world for her, and I really would have. I figured of course I can be a dad to her son I love her so much. But now about a year into the marriage and I’m ashamed to say this but I despise her child. I play my part well, disguise my true feelings as best I can but at the end of the day I view him as a burden and obstacle to my happiness. I love her so very much, but sadly loving the kid doesn’t come automatically with that, as I assumed it would. I want to do right by her, but I’m not sure what to do - she has no one else, no family no friends and we are in the military so she needs my help to keep her career. If I can’t watch him when she deploys she will get discharged and have nothing. Leaving would destroy all her hopes and dreams but staying...is a miserable stepfather part of a sustainably happy future for her and her child? I don’t think so. Only thing I can come up with right now is giving it more time and effort, and keep saving money so I can still help her if the worst case scenario happens.