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Wife wants ** with another man
My wife and I have been married for just about 15 years now. We like ** and enjoy movies and toys and roll playing. My wife recently asked me if I wanted to experience another woman. I told her that I was most satisfied with her and that while I have seen women I had fantasized about I didn't really want to do that. Then she told me that she has been wondering about maybe trying ** with inviting another person to join us. I was shocked to hear that she is actually thinking about trying it. So I asked her who she had in mind. That's when I learned she wanted to have another man join us.
Yeah another man. I was shocked but also turned on a bit by her revelation. I asked her if she wasn't satisfied with me or my performance in the bedroom. She said that she felt like she needs to find out how it would be to make love to two men at the same time. I asked her if she has someone in mind and she said yes. It's a man that she knows from her health club. She said she has been talking with him and they even went out to lunch one time. I'm just afraid that she will develop real feelings of love for this man and that be the end of our marriage. While it does turn me on to think about I'm scared that I won't be able to handle it after we do it.
Dude she is not asking u she is telling you she is ** for him...let her proceed
She may not be approaching this in the best manner, but the fact that she's willing to openly share with you what she's thinking and going out of her way to try to include you speaks well of her. Take some solace in that.
My wife is shared, and I know other men who share their wives. Communicating constantly, keeping each other updated on your thoughts and feelings as well as actions, and being considerate and supportive of each others' feelings is key. Not keeping any secrets whatsoever is absolutely critical!! You and your wife need to be on the same team, and never approach this from an adversarial position. You love each other and want to make each other happy and fulfilled. That goes both ways.
It's also a good idea to establish boundaries and expectations beforehand, and to be willing to discuss changing those boundaries as things progress. Any of you should be free to initiate that conversation, including her new friend. He's a person too, and deserves a voice in decisions that will impact him.
It isn't for everyone. Even with the best of intentions, I've seen marriages end after they started exploring this. But I've also seen it turn out wonderfully for everyone involved. I had a real hard time at first. There were tears a couple of times, and a lot of reassurance from her. There was even one point where I was afraid we were going to break up. We took it very slowly, and at first even seeing my wife kiss another man was upsetting to me, and on another occasion watching her take off her shirt and bra and let another man see her bare ** caused a lot of anxiety.
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But it was also INTENSELY arousing! I can't overstate that. With each new step I'd have a knot in my stomach but my ** would be rock hard. That turned out to be the key to adjusting for me. I focused on how indescribably ** it was watching my naked wife respond to another man's touch, seeing the look on her face, hearing her gasp. My own arousal was like armor for me. As long as I didn't **, my ** overpowered my insecurities and I loved every second of it.
If you're able to push through the initial terrifying anxiety, here's some good news: As long as she continues to be reassuring and sensitive to your needs, the more you watch your wife with another man the more the anxiety will fade, but the eroticism of the experience doesn't fade a bit! I firmly believe that a man will never fully appreciate how beautiful and ** his wife is until he sees how her body moves and responds when she's with another man. It's magic. And participating, turning your wife's pleasure into a team sport, is the best thing in the world. And now we're both so comfortable with it that I don't have any problem with her ** someone else without me there. My only stipulation is that I hear all about it afterward, and that invariably leads to she and I ** each others' brains out.
I was so hesitant when my wife and I started exploring, and now I wish we'd taken the plunge years earlier. I'm actually more gung ** about it than she is. She only plays with people she's known for a long time, but if it were up to me I'd be watching a different man use, enjoy, and pleasure her every night!
I wish you the best of luck. It may not seem like it now, but this could be the start of the most exciting adventure of your lives.
It seems that your wife has already made up her mind to have ** with this man. You may just join in. Try to develop a 3-some relationship and see what happens. If you cannot accommodate with the arrangement, opt out and opt out of her too!
Your wife is already ** Him Im afraid, Im mean the already went out to lunch together. She sounds like a wonderful wife who is trying to be honest with you and still include you in her ** life. You should embrace it anx e joy it. Watching her being satisfied by another man will reinvigorate your passion for another and your appreciation for her as a sexual being. You are one lucky, this is a big fantasy for alot of men. Let her cuckold and enjoy the ride