Daughter asked me the Secret to a Happy Marriage.

I (F47) have been happily married for 26 years. My 21 year old daughter asked me the secret to why her father and I are so happy. I told her the first thing she needed to do is find a man who would treat her with love and respect in all things. He should be her best friend, biggest fan and constant loving support of her goals and dreams. I told her finding a man who is not controlling and abusive is the most important thing to a woman's happiness and she should run from any man who even hints at being a controlling @sshole.

Then I told her, "that's for your happiness." For his happiness, you need to make sure that you are not petty and jealous. You need to be willing to accommodate him sexually even when you are not in the mood and give him the opportunity to get you in the mood. I told her that her father and I still have s** almost everyday. I told her she should learn to give a decent bl0wj0b and surprise him with one frequently. I said, never underestimate the power of a bl0wj0b to turn around a bad day for a man who has worked hard and found himself cranky at the end of the day. I also told her she should learn to accept that her man will notice other beautiful women, but if she takes him home and does all the things for him that he imagines those other women doing, he will be faithful. I also told her she should be adventuresome. Try many different things with him sexually and do the things he likes most when he initiates those things.

My daughter looked at me a bit shocked that we were actually having this conversation, but I figured we might never have it again so I laid it all out for her. She asked me what the craziest thing her dad and I ever did and I told her, well, I'm not going to give you specifics, but we have been known on occasion to play with other couples. She wanted to know who, but I decided that was irrelevant. I told her the point is, that the more sexually open she could be, the more satisfied both she and her husband will be.

I also told her that she should make it a firm rule to never speak ill of her partner to anyone, and he should make the same agreement. Even they were having problems, she should protect his character to the outside world. We all make mistakes and if it is big enough, then they should talk to a counselor, not all of her friends. If it isn't big enough for a counselor, she can talk to one extremely trusted friend only, but she had better make sure that friend isn't going to turn her relationship into the subject of gossip and will be there to support her, not bash her partner.

I told her that they should develop common interests. Her father and I hunt together and build things together and because it was important to me, he even learned to knit and sew, things most men can't do. I also told her that she needs to have her own friends and interests and make time to get out with them and allow her partner his own life outside of the home without being jealous of his time.

We talked for almost two hours, but I think she got the idea. I thought I should share this for other daughters out there who can't talk to their mothers so openly.

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  • Good points. I’ve been married 24 years myself. BJs do help. But what really set our marriage over the top is when I started sharing my hubby.

    He is amazing in bed. But watching him go b**** deep into our neighbor with his 8 inch c*** and make her scream and moan is incredible. But I get to lick up the mess as that c** is mine!

  • And what are you going to do when your husband tells you he has more in common with the neighbor then you? And he is going to move in with her and come visit you!

  • Andrea is my best friend and she is married. He won’t leave me for her. Afterall we have been married 24 years and we have been doing this threesome for 14 of those years.

    She doesn’t have s** with him unless I’m there. It’s the deal the three of us have made

  • ThatSHIT happens all the time. Spouse leaves for lover. They also could be planning to kill you. That to happens all the time! Andrea is gonna steal your man and kill you.

  • No way. We enjoy girl:girl action as well.

    She knows we have a special relationship. My hubby also knows that he is not allowed to have s** with other women without my approval. Otherwise I told him I would divorce him.

    He can’t afford to divorce me. I get half our estate and he has to pay me alimony since we have been married so long.

    I have complete control of the situation

  • I fully agree with you and the OP. The best antidote to divorce in the world today is for men and women to please their spouses sexually. Trust me, s** has the ability to absorb a huge number of differences, frictions, and irritations in everyday life. When you give yourself to your partner, make them really happy by caring for their needs, you will, indeed, enhance the quality of your relationship. Your spouse will see you as the giver of bliss, ecstasy, joy, and O*****!!!!! That will override a huge number of petty challenges.

    Unfortunately, a large number of women just don't get this. A lot of men have huge appetites for s**. Likewise women. Just indulge your partner. Give them ALL the s** they need, unconditionally. DON'T, EVER, MAKE S** A BARGAINING CHIP. Denying your spouse s** is akin to starving them to death.

    I think ALL women should take this to heart. Men as well. Kiss your partner as often as you can, fondle as much as possible, compliment often, suck and lick for as long as it take for your partner to moan in pure ecstasy. Then, f*** hard in all positions possible. Repeat often. This will dissolve ALL differences in marriages. You will notice that your spouse will fall in line and do as you say. For women, take it from me: MOST MEN WILL BE LITERALLY LIKE DUTIFUL DOGS, FAITHFUL, FRIENDLY, AND FRISKY. That's what you should aim for. Happy f******!! Women, tell us your experiences.

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  • Well thats a load of Krap. The fact is that swinging has led to many marriages go bust. People having S ex with strangers are bound to fall in love or l*** with that person. HeII it has led to murders as well because of the cheaper to keep her rules.

  • S** doesn't always equal love

  • No but S ex can and has led to love

  • So can alot of things

  • Yes like swinging your morals are set too low.

  • I wish there were more women like you in the world there would be far less device thank you for the way you threat your husband

  • Your point of view was shocking to read at first, but reading it a second time made me think. My thought was, "Heck yeah, that lady is absolutely right and I wish my 46 years of marriage had gone that way." Thank you for writing this. You have honesty and wisdom to share. You inspired my day!

  • It's good to have open discussions especially in a family.

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