Asked to dinner but I'd have to wear a dress!

I’m 16 and this guy in my class asked me to dinner at a country club with his family on Valentine’s Day. He’s a nice guy but said I’d have to wear a dress! Said he’s wearing a coat and tie and something like it’s a formal place and women wear dresses or pants suits and NO flip flops! wtf!
I normally wear a t-shirt with leggings and flip flops and he said this place might not let me in. wtf! This place needs to be reported to the police!
His mom and sisters invited me to spa day that morning too! wtf!
I told him to f**k off!!

Feb 21

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  • This is not a freedom issue, nor a matter of women's rights, and I think you already know that. On the evening of Valentine's Day, you were permitted to wear exactly the clothing YOU chose and no one tried to get you to do otherwise. You just weren't allowed into the country club. The club was the host and you were a guest. You weren't deprived of a choice: you made your choice. You CHOSE to stay home and you wore your tee-shirt and flipflops: congratulations, slagwipe!! You don't get to make everyone's choices, just your own. You need to lose that sense of entitlement you have. It will not serve you well once you reach adulthood. Nobody likes a b****; that's why they call them a b****.


    You haters have issues judging others! You post I'm a bad person, read your own comments! I'm also not a lesbian but what if I was?

    This is a free country and no place should make someone wear something they don't want to. It's not right to say if you don't like the rules then don't go. They shouldn't have the rules to start with!
    Going to a spa and being forced to wear a dress to dinner only degrades women! We are not an object! We are powerful women and deserve to look and wear what we want!

    I'm glad I did what I did! Said what I said! My friends the guidance counselor agree with me! Women are not property and should be able to wear what we want!!! My generation is going to change the world!

  • You and your generation have already begun changing the world. . . . . for the worse. Much worse.

  • I'm worried this is a bigger problem and not entirely the fault of the original poster.
    She said, "My friends the guidance counselor agree with me!"
    I have a 17 year old daughter in public school. We communicate often. I asked her if there are any 'boys' interested in her. If so, she can have the young man over. My daughter went off scale yelling at me! Girls DON'T DATE BOYS!
    I asked who told her that. She named her Civics and English teacher. I did some investigating. They are both lesbians. I asked my daughter 'when do they tell you all this?' She replied! DURING CLASS!
    I had a meeting with the principal. She told me it was the teacher's first amendment right of speech and I have no complaint here.
    My husband and I are in process of finding the money to pull my daughter out of public school.

  • You a guy or a girl?

  • Hopefully the boy has learned that you are too trashy and low class to invite to anyplace nice.

  • Glad you showed him what type of person you are.... so he wouldn't waste his time. Some people are so stupid, they don't realize the magnitude of it.

  • Omg took words out of my mouth.

  • When I read the caption\title of your post, I was convinced that you were a guy who was becoming the target of a gay man attempting to convert you to homosexuality or introduce you to a trans lifestyle. I was prepared to feel sorry for you because some sick guy was going to try to take advantage of you. But i don't feel sorry for you at all. I do, however, feel sorry for your class friend because YOU treated HIM so shabbily. You should be ashamed of yourself.

  • The person complaining is perfectly normal and absolutely correct in telling his weirdo classmate to f*** off.
    I would have done exactly the same.
    F****** faggots !

  • The person complaining is a classless slob of a girl, and likely a smelly lesbian, too.

  • Glad you said so: I had assumed that to be the case, but I doubted my intuition. Thanks for your valuable input!!

  • Class is something many people think they have and very few do really have it.
    A Rich man can say he has it but it could be the poorest man can have the most of it. Class is something that you can not buy, it is the way you are...
    So it looks like your out of luck unless you open your mind and close your mouth!!!!!

  • If you were really anywhere near as properly "educated" as you claim, you would have learned by now that there NO people on the face of the earth from whom you can't learn anything. As a prime example, take this young man you mentioned in your posting. Perhaps your grades were better than his...... IN HIGH SCHOOL!!!!! Perhaps your Math Club experience and your contacts in academia will carry you farther professionally than his personal hard work and kindness will take him. But he could have taught you MUCH about sensitivity and empathy and humility, and he surely would have done that without once blatantly explaining to you what a truly spectacular B**** you really are. Me? I don't have the f****** patience for that s***.
    And one final point: When he asked you out? He was doing you a favor by lowering himself to your level. And your reaction to it? That just exactly what a b**** do.

  • What the f*** ?!
    Stop talking bollocks.

  • Who you talk to bitchass?

  • It could have been really fun. Dressing up once in a while won't kill you. I doubt he wears a jacket and tie every day. If the thought of having to dress in a civilized way freaks you out that badly then perhaps the two of you aren't meant to be anyway.

  • Stop being a lazy @ become a woman

  • F*** off and due f*****.
    The original poster is obviously not comfortable in the company of queers.

  • Close your mouth, put on a dress, pull on a pair of pantyhose and stylish shoes, do your hair and makeup carefully then try to participate with an open mind. You might learn some things about other people and how to accept them, unless being a foul-mouthed brat in flip-flops is your life's ambition.

  • Another f****** q**** c*** !
    This chap was right to tell his bent classmate to f*** off.
    I'd probably have punched him in the mouth .

  • Are you simple? The poster is a girl! Why would the mother and sisters invite a guy to a day spa? THAT would be weird.

  • Judging by her vocabulary and dress code, she's bound to be a lifetime member of the TTAA (Trailer Trash Association of America. Their current leader, idol and role model is, as you would expect, Miley Cyrus. Their logo is, as you would likewise expect, a burning landfill. And dey future so bright dey gotta wear shades.

  • Ooooops!! My parents taught me and my identical twin sister that "it's never too late to do the right thing. But sometimes, it actually IS too late . . . like here. The dinner was Valentine's Day: a week ago.

    What the OP should do, if she had half a brain and an ounce of decency (both, admitted longshots) is to email the young man who invited her and say, e.g.:
    Dear ________________ ~
    I made a really serious mistake --- actually, I made a series of really serious mistakes -- when you invited me to have dinner with you and your family for Valentine's Day. I won't list what they were nor even the order in which they occurred, for fear of repeating, recreating or underscoring the insulting and horrific way I mishandled things. I'll just say (a) I am very sorry for and incredibly embarrassed by my behavior throughout, (b) I hope you'll allow me to show my contrition by taking YOU out for pizza (my treat) each of the next four Sunday nights. And (c) I promise won't tell you what to wear nor do anything else to embarrass you further. I deeply appreciated your kindness and generosity, and I will forever regret not only having declined the sweet invitation but the unbelievably s***** way I went about it. Can you PLEASE forgive me?

    This won't happen, of course, but it should.

  • F*** off you s*** s******.

  • It's sad, but your generation has been utterly spoiled by their parents; which is to say, MY generation. My generation has taught you to avoid societal standards and resist authority, and have aided and abetted, and actively guided, your efforts to do so. In the effort to make your lives freer and better and more independent and less inhibited, we've managed to do you a tremendous disservice by allowing you to develop the insulting attitude that rules are for other people. That was wrong, and I, for one, am very sorry for it. It's ruining your lives. And the world.

  • Good for you for tellin' him to f*** off after that👍!

  • ^Yes!!!^ a simple "No, thank you" would have sufficed, but it's great that you were able to deploy your smug superiority!! Well done, you f****** w****!!!!!!

  • I know it's reeeeally hard for people of your generation to comprehend --- much less, accept --- but there are places and groups and organizations in the world that actually have rules and standards. In order to participate in their functions everyone must follow those requirements. Anyone who chooses not to do so is perfectly welcome, as you did, to exercise their God-given right to stay the f*** home and be a worthless f***-up . . . . forever. What you do NOT have the God-given right to do is to b**** about it. You missed out on what might have been a wonderful and memorable evening, a fabulous ( and FREE) meal, and a chance to learn more about a guy who (God help him) somehow finds you appealing. But hey . . . . . don't worry about all that: you got the chance to loudly and vulgarly assert yourself, and to prove to a nice guy --- and to the world --- that you're an incredible piece of s***!!! AND YOU F****** DID IT! Be happy! Be proud! You scored (another) one for Generation B****! Say it with me: "B**** LIVES MATTER!!!!!"

  • Too many q**** c**** criticising the original poster's correct response in telling a shirt lifter to f*** off.
    I'd have done exactly the same.
    I hate queers

  • You are a moron with no reading comprehension. Original poster is female. Men don't get asked to day spas, idiot. And why would a guy ask another guy to dinner at a country club?

  • No queers are involved here. Except you.

  • Idiot. The bloke that wants another bloke to wear a dress is obviously q**** as are the sick blokes that like the idea of a man in a dress . Got that ?
    I'm a normal straight bloke and find the idea repulsive.

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