Advice needed

I've been with my husband for 3 years and we have a baby daughter, and I've always known I'm bi but recently I've been a lot less attracted to my husband and wishing I could be with a woman. I love my husband, but I don't feel attracted to him and we aren't having s** much anymore because of my feelings about women, but I don't know how to explain it to him or even if I should tell him or just see if it will pass.

Feb 28, 2021

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    I'd say it's better to do your relationship authentically vs being that bird stuck in a cage.
    If you don't express your wants and needs in a respectful and calm way, your husband may never know about your feelings. It's a discussion to have and you two will work out the byproduct thereafter.

  • It maybe daunting and difficult to communicate these feeling to your husband, but you made a commitment to each other. You're meant to be a team, partners and so forth. Sit down and open the channel of communication, to discuss how both of you're feeling, he may surprise you. You're only stating things regarding yourself, which is natural. But how does your husband feel, about his wife no longer desiring him and not wanting to have s** with him anymore? He may have feelings of being unwanted and unloved, you never. Your relationship isn't just about you, it's also about your husband. I can't stress enough, the importance of communication in a relationship.

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  • You never loved him in the first place! You where infatuated him! Then it wore off! You don't know what love is! First and most important part of love is putting the person you love ahead of yourself. You have to care for them more then yourself. Example you partner was in an accident and as a result they can never make love again. What would you do? You would break you marriage vows and find someone else thats what right!

  • I have heard of some women crossdressering there husband and having s.. with them dressed up as a woman and it worked.
    Get home naked and start asking him questions about this and the D... will not lie.
    You don't have anything to lose and he might really like it.
    It is just worth a try a some bra and panties and other silky thinks and see how it goes..
    What do you have to lose??

  • You may also be suffering from post partum depression and dealing with COVID isolation. This could just be an expression of your frustration.

  • You need to be true to yourself. Tell him. If loves you he will let you open up the marriage to explore. Many men can be accepting of a woman's need to be bi.

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    When my GF shared with me that her husband had ED I then started sharing my hubby and it’s been incredible ever since

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  • You are married so you have to be open with him. I recently experienced the same thing you are going through. I met my husband at work after I graduated college. We dated a year then got married. I'm 24 and he's 25. I love him and we have a good s** life but I also have urges to be with a woman. I was in a sorority in college and had s** with most of my 'sisters'. I'm still tight with most of them on social media. I was struggling with my emotions so one night I confessed my urges and desires.
    I was in shock. He agreed to let me see my friends from time to time.
    He said he'd have no problem as long as I still love him. He said I could be discrete or I could have them stay with us and he'd take the spare bedroom.
    Do not count out your husband. He married you because he loves you. If he truly loves you he will let you be happy even if that means you want to continue being with another woman.
    I also believe if you can have this arrangement, you will become more attracted to your husband.
    I never lost my attraction for my husband but now I desire him more.
    I hope this helps.

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