I can’t get over him, no matter what, I feel truly pathetic

So I met this guy back in august and tbh I fell for him pretty fast. I mean the way we met is really adorable. He used to live in my apartment complex and he freely offered to help my Dad move all the heavy stuff in. Maybe I’m just easily impressed but I was just really appreciative of his kindness. A few days later he knocked on my door and asked me to axe throwing 😂, later we went swimming in the river. It was just a super great first date imo. The more I got to know him the deeper I fell. He’s super geeky, but also just very sure of himself. Total nerd about anime. To me he’s just everything I’ve ever wanted in a man. Confident, understanding, kind hearted, smart. He made me feel like my feelings were always valid and never made me feel weird for many of the very weird things I say. We connected really well I thought...not to mention the s** was unbelievable.

So in mid December he gets sick with Covid and I start hearing less and less from him. He also basically only has one good lung and when I was still hearing from him he was going through it hardTo start he wasn’t the best with texting back or replying, much better in person tho. Anyways it’s gotten to the point now where I haven’t heard from him since late December. He left my messages unopened for a month and then January opened them and didn’t say anything. I haven’t messaged him since but I think about him constantly. I miss him terribly and I just don’t know what to do with myself. I feel so pathetic that I just can’t forget him and move on. My friends all tell me to just let it go and find someone to get him off my mind.

Tbh I don’t want him off my mind, I don’t want to forget him. Which just makes me feel worse. 😓

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  • You are pathetic. Get a life. Move on..Depend on NOBODY.

  • Go and talk to him and see how he is doing.
    Maybe he has long Covid and is still having problems and he doesn't want you to see him weak.
    It could be this way, so just talk to him and find out. You said he was better at talking.
    Good luck..

  • I’m just worried since he’s being ignoring my messages, going to his house would make me seem crazy.

  • If he's ignoring your messages then he's seeing somebody else. I don't mean to make you feel bad but the sooner you get over him the sooner you will meet somebody you deserve. He's not giving you the respect of even acknowledging you. Do you really want to be around somebody who is that rude to you? Life is short. Don't waste your precious time on an idiot.

  • Just go talk to him, go to his place. Did you ever think that he might think you are better off with a guy who has two lungs. He might feel the same as you ,but thinks you should find someone better. you will never know if you don't ask.

  • You don’t think I’d look like a lunatic showing up at his house??

  • No not at all, maybe he is looking out for what he see', as your best interest

  • Well I mean he hasn’t messaged me so I just assume he’s no longer interested, which crushes me. I did try calling once a couple weeks back(on Valentine’s Day😭) and left a message just saying a bit about how I felt. It rang all the way, which I took as a neutral sign. Still haven’t heard from him.

  • I don't know how old you are, but you could just move on or go to his place and try to tell him in person. You might find out what is in his head and it could be he is just not ready, or you could find out he felt you could do better.
    You will never know if you don't try. way to many people now a days worry so much about what others think. s**** them its your life.

  • Hey there I am about 3 or 4 of those good traits that he has and one that he doesn't have I would always text you back

  • Your mom won’t let you use her phone to do that.

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