I don't know how to handle this.

My son is fourteen, and his real dad just got out of prison. He was a really bad person; back in the day when I met him, I was fiffteen and he was eighteen. I was so stupid I thought the crazy stuff { selling drugs, robbing pepole and killing pepole} was cool. I got pregnate two months after I met him and he started hitting on me. I got away at 17 and he went to prison a few months later. I have gotten married my husband is the only father my son has none for 10 years, but he knows that my husband is not his real dad. I dont want my son to have any contact with him because I think he will try to corrupt my son? I have not told my husband that I know he is out of prison. Am I doing the right thing by keeping my son from him? I think I'll lose it if he tries to contact my son.

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  • I disagree. It sounds like the real dad is a j*** and a really bad guy. You need to think about what is best for your son. Just because that man got you pregnant doesn't make him a father. You have already made clear that your husband is your son's 'real' dad. He's the one that has been there. The biological father is just a sperm donor and the only good he probably ever did is give you your kid. If you are worried you should talk to your husband. You may want to try to approach the subject of the bio dad with your son without telling him exactly what's going on just to see what he thinks. Do what you feel is best for your son. He is more important than his bio father. Good luck!

  • I agree, tell your husband he will help.

  • ^ Uh.... that makes no sense.

    Anyways, the father has a true right to visit his son if he wishes. I think you get the power to decide how it all goes down. So prepare for the eventuality of them meeting. Your son will probably understand the true relationship between him and his step-dad compared to his real dad. His real dad being some guy he's never seen in his life, but of course he will be very interested. That would be natural. Kids are curious right?

    Tell your husband so it doesn't hit him out of the blue. He will be more understanding then. Explain to him what you just did for us.

    Best of luck!

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