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I cheated on my husband with 3 black men from my bowling team.
It happened over a 5 month period. After bowling we would go drinking and one thing would lead to another.
This occurred 2 nights a week during this 5 month period. I am now 4 months pregnant with twins.
My husband is so excited, however there is a very good chance that the twins will be biracial (my husband and I are both white.)
I was with them a total of 40 times to the point I got pregnant but there were 3 of them so that is 120 and I was with my husband about 36 times and there is only one of him. So there is a 76.9% chance our twins will be biracial.
Should I tell him ahead of time? Or should I hope that the twins are my husbands and if not deal with it then?
Is there an update
So you cheated 120 times & you know good & well hubby isn’t the father. But only now are you concerned about hurting hubby. Way too late to be concerned.
Maybe he’ll leave & find someone who will be loyal if he can ever trust someone again.
Or better yet just leave the poor ** & be free to ** whomever you want no guilt. Not that you felt guilty before.
Ok so we're the up date it been five months
Good thing now that you confessed your sin to husband.
BTW did you share your pregnancy news with your bowling mates? If so, their reaction?
I told him and unfortunately he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me. He said if the twins are his he might want a divorce and custody. I didn’t even tell him there were 3 of them. I said there was one of them and it only happened a few times. I’m so heartbroken now.
Give him some space and let him cool down. You may be able to suggest marriage counseling in a few weeks. I'm not trying to sound mean, but I hope you have learned your lesson here. It's one thing to cheat, but doing so outside your own race is unwise in the extreme. There's no way you can hide it when you get knocked up. Being gang banged by three black guys may be a ** of a fantasy, but in the real world there are definite consequences. Just be prepared that you may not be able to salvage this relationship. I wish you the best of luck.
Thank you so much. I know I don’t deserve him. He should leave me. But please know that being with black men or being “**” as you put it was never a fantasy of mine. This just kind of happened. A one thing led to another type of thing and soon they were all over me. It’s my fault, I did enjoy it otherwise I would not have continued to hang out with them. It is not their fault they weren’t married I am. So regretful
I do not want to lose my husband but I don’t want this to be a surprise. It is getting so close and part of me really wants to tell him.
As I said in my previous comment, he has been going through all the motions thinking that these children will be his and there is no way in ** that they are. If this happened to me in the delivery room, the shock, embarrassment, and utter humiliation would be absolutely devastating. You have to tell him. There's no way out of it. If he finds out at birth, then losing him is a given, but in all honesty, you are going to anyway and are just putting off the inevitable. You may as well get it over with.
Thank you so much for the advice. I think I am going to tell him.
My husband has gone to every class and has been so supportive and he is so excited. I don’t know what I will do if my children are biracial. I don’t want to hurt my husband but part of me would like a biracial child. So confused.
I am now 28 weeks along. I only have 3 months to decide.
What you have done is increasingly common. White women are over compensating for the wrongs committed against blacks in the past. They are driven to serving black men, and society is supporting this behavior. I think you must have known of the likelihood that you would have black babies. There are some men that encourage their wives to live this lifestyle, and raise those babies in order that the wife can continue to indulge the interracial ** they crave. You need to be honest with yourself about your feelings, then you can be honest with your family and friends.
Good luck dear and may Gods bless these new born and you with great health and love.
Where are you located love?
You should have told him as soon as you knew you were pregnant. He's been expecting his own kids all this time and if I were him and found out on the day of delivery, I would be absolutely devastated.
Pro tip:
NEVER cheat outside your own race so that it doesn't come back to bite you in the ** like this has. TELL HIM NOW!
Good luck
I am 23 weeks along now went to the doctor yesterday, so I have about 16 weeks to tell him about what happened. Any suggestions on how I can open up the conversation to him about the horrible things I have done? These twins possible not being his?
You sk*nk. Cheated on him a total of 120 times (penetrations, with 3 [black] dudes) and *NOW* you're wondering about possible consequences?! Do your husband a favour, pack your bags.... You deserve zero sympathy.
Wasn’t asking for sympathy. Is this website called Sumpathypost.com? Is it? Well you little child. You act like it happened to you. Oops based on how you write it probably did. I’m so proud of her for doing that to you. Stay safe.
Too funny.
It's one thing to cheat...another to be permanently defiled by nigg3rs.
You should be prepared to pack your bags and fk off
You should be prepared to ** a **.
Oh another poor man who has been cheated on poor you. Grow up.