Lesson learned from the 'real world'

I'm 39. The number scares me. I'm an 'empowerment coach' for women. I made a living until the pandemic shut down offices and groups, my client base has always been corporations. It's only then that I had to deal from a position of powerlessness. You can't project power if the powerful don't let you. No power structure, nothing to project.

I moved in with a friend, female, divorced, powerless. I managed a couple of remote sessions a week but not enough to pay the bills. My uncle gave me an allowance. A man paid my way. After 18 months, living with a friend not paying rent, my uncle sending me money, I couldn't project power, I was frustrated, depressed.

A friend, an attorney 'gave' me a job as a receptionist so I could get benefits. I never saw him at work, his office was not available to the receptionist. Instead this twenty six year old very attractive junior attorney served him coffee, and sucked him off under his desk. He was her 'mentor'. She had power, the power to keep me from seeing him in the office.

I never was able to project power from the reception desk. Not the clothes, not the body language, not the 'look', not the behavior, not the words, not the attitude. But a 26 year old, on her knees, got all of his attention. When at a party months later I confronted him, he answered she knew how to please and I was too old for that. In other words be thankful you have a paycheck, with benefits.

I have not been able to resurrect my consulting business. I quit the reception job out of anger, my uncle transfers me an allowance twice a month, I live with my equally powerless divorced friend, I'm working the front desk at the Museum for the bills and benefits.

Power is a function of who allows you project power, I've learned that the hard way. And for some women they have power by getting on their knees. I understand that now. Big corporations, and government offices, play the game, they let you pretend you have power. You really never do.

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