AITA
AITA for sleeping with a work buddies GFj after he committed suicide? I know it sounds ** up saying it but I don’t know if it makes me an ** or not. So for the story we’ll call her Alexis 19F and her boyfriend (my old work buddies) Alexander 19M and myself 33M. So I’ve worked with Alexander since right after he turned 18. Actually I hired him and told him I’d give him a shot at our company even though he has no prior experience but he’s going to have to pay attention and work hard. Over the next few months from his start the kid worked extra hard. He’d show up 10 minutes late here and there but was always available to help whenever we needed a hand. He ended up helping out so much I was beginning to rely on the 18 year old more that I could on my 30 year old guys. So after 6 months I started to personally take him under my wing at work. The kid worked hard no doubt about that. Well he turned 19 and not much change. The only notable change is I’d let him come over to my house or I’d go over to his house sometimes and we’d hang out. I never ever did this with any of my “employees” became I didn’t want people thinking I was playing favorites. Alexander was different. He was mature for his age. He also lost both his mom and dad by 16 years old.. so anyway for 3/4 of the year still nothing has changed. Occasionally he’d come into work and I could tell something was up and he’d say it was something between him and his girlfriend. Her and I almost never talked or interacted. She was doing her own thing or not there whenever I was at his house and she only came over to my house 2 or 3 times. So right before Alexander was about to turn 20 I hadn’t heard from him all weekend and didn’t think anything of it. That day I had a meeting with a client and wouldn’t be able to go over the morning plan until an hour or so later than usual that Monday morning. I meet with the client and step away and notice Alexander hasn’t responded back yet. I thought that was weird but he probably stayed up late playing video games and I was going to have to go wake him up. No big deal he’s been putting in the hours as he always would anytime he was needed. I’m about to get in my truck and drive to his house to wake him up and I get a call on the business number (not my business cell which is unusual) it’s Alexis and she sounds upset. I ask what’s going on and she proceeds to tell me that last night they got in an argument and Alexander shot himself in the head and he’s gone. I couldn’t believe it at first. I tell her I’ll call her back and proceed to process what I was just told. Well a week or so later she messaged me asking if I’d want to meet and go through his things with her as I was like his best buddy and mentor and she knew he’d want me to help. I go over and help how I can and she tells me that they are having a celebration of life for him and she’d like me to go. She also asked me if I’d move his motorcycle to a new location as I’m the only person he know that can and will move it for her. She also asks if I’d give her one last ride on it and of course I agree. The celebration for him goes well and the ride on his motorcycle was nice as well. Up until now no this has came up that was “different” from our new normal. At home later that night she text me telling me that she had tickets to a concert out of town that was originally for them to go and get away and have fun and that if I’d like to go with her she’d like that but if not she understood and wold probably just sell them. I didn’t know what to say so came up with a lame excuse and said I would love to but I’d have to work because things at work were a bit crazier especially now without my right hand man. So another week passes and i was on one of my apps and noticed she was on the app as well and I only knew that because her name was the same as her others on the app (mine wasn’t) so I message her messing with her and she almost immediately shuts it down and i say something that only someone that she actually knew would know and follow up with I think she’s a very pretty girl and has an amazing personality and that I’ll leave her alone now but hope that I was able to make her smile and I’ll disappear no weirdo stuff. Well she’s adamant about wanting to know who I am and asks if she guesses would I truthfully say if she was correct. So I think this will be fun so I agree. She thinks and guesses and doesn’t get it and she can’t think of who tf I could be. So I tell her can’t she just take a compliment from a anonymous associate of hers and smile and go about her day. She doesn’t go for that and insists on me revealing myself so just before I go into a meeting I give in and reveal myself and go into an hour meeting not able to message her. An hour later I check and see that she was flattered and would have never guessed it was me, but she was “kind of glad it was”. Surprised I continued to converse with her and that continues for another 1-2 days then I make a sexual remark and she says she wishes. I laugh and say “oh yeah well then let’s do tonight then” she says she’d love to but had plans with her family. But then she tells me she’s free tomorrow. I say if she’s serious then consider it a date. She laughed and agreed tomorrow it is. Well tomorrow comes and she confirms we’re still on and we’d meet at 4:00pm. Well I rented an air bnb and she gets there 10 minutes before I get there. I pull up and go in and she’s lounging on the bed exhausted she says from her long day. I lay lounged next to her and we start to chat. Well after 10 min of conversation I sit up and say well let me do this as I kick off my boots and loosen my belt. I then get back on the bed and start to pull her shorts down and she’s nervous you can tell but adjusts herself as I’m peeling her ** and shorts off. I throw them on the floor and immediately start eating her **. Her thighs keep squeezing my head in her enjoyment. After 10 minutes of my tongue in her ** and massaging her ** I take my pants off and pick her up to adjust her position so I can penetrate her ** with my throbbing **. Everything going well I slide my ** in and immediately start pounding her ** like I’m a teenager again. After 2 or 3 minutes I pull out and tell her to hold tight and I shuffle to my bag to get a condom because I was just ** her raw. I slide the condom on and mount her again and go to town. We roll and flip and are both drenched in sweat an hour later. I start going in hard and finish inside her with the condom on. Exhausted we lay naked net to one we start chatting and she says she’s going to fall asleep after 5 minutes of our post ** conversation. I say oh yeah and get up and mount her again and slid my ** in her again. She moans and submits and I proceeded to ** her with my unprotected **. I ** her ** for another 15 minutes then I pull out and ** on her ** and back. I’m exhausted as I’m 33 and just ** a 19 year old for the last 1 3/4 hours! I tell her I’m going to smoke a cigarette and she joins and I’ve chat for another 45 minutes. I then tell her she’s welcome to the Airbnb for the night if she wants but I’ve got to go. I’ve got to stop by the store for my wife on the way home and thank her for the amazing **. Then later that night she says she had fun and she was going to have to take a bath and rest her ** because her pelvis hurt from so much repetitive thrusts. Ngl it took until the next day but my pelvis was bruised too. Well I message her that afternoon and no reply. the next day after work she sends a short response and says shes exhausted and going to bed. then from there same thing and we just stopped talking. so AITA for piping her down or am i in fair play?
Sep 28
People grieve a loss or death in various ways. She was at a low point thinking she was responsible for her boyfriend death. You consoled her and helped her sort things out. You helped her honor the life of your mutual friend. She was in need and she asked for comfort. You were not predatory on the widow. You helped her survive her loss and then helped her rebuild some self esteem via **. Becuase you were married ( and she needed more) she went away from you. Other than you being married you did nothing to hurt anyone. It was a very human experience similar to what typically happens when a soldier dies and his grieving widow reaches out for help and comfort. You were not a predator. Feel proud of yourself for helping this young woman in every way you possibly could. But dont expect your wife to approve of what you did. But maybe find movies with scenes similar ( soldier comforts the wife of fallen comrade) and do some role play during ** with your wife. So maybe your wife can develop some understanding or empathy. In case the truth comes out later on. So no, other than cheating on your wife you were not being ahole