No one listens

Im the oldest of two and im a girl my whole life ive taken care of them but i get no respect from anyone im turning 17 in 3 days n since i was probably 8-9 ive been learning how to cook, clean, work in a garage with my dad and get good grades. But no one appreciates me. I live in a poor community but compared to them we are quite well off and im always reminded of how great full i shud be for my privilege. My parents provide for me but they have been extremely strict with me my whole life. They hated my frends i wasnt allowed to hang out or tok to my frends out of skool until last year wen we moved countries so they kind of gave me a fresh start but they are still extremely strict with me. I shud be happy about getting more freedom but it eats me inside how my parents didnt let me (basically) have a social life until i turned 16 but my 12 yr old sister gets to have a social life so early. They let my sister download tiktok at 11 and my dad even used his own birthday to log her in but they laughed at me wen i secretly download tiktok at 14....** 14 wen all my frends had it since kids. They were nvr protecting me they just want to control me. I wasnt allowed music either...until i turned 16 but ag my dad used his birthday to make my sister a spotify acc right infront of me. They've been so controlling with my life. Wen i was a tween/teen i wasnt aloowed to wear lose tees cos i looked like a boy but wasnt allowed to wear short dresses because it was to sexual same with crop tops n all that. Even tho they nvr said thay i knew thats was they were thinking...they used to say that i was too young to wear those. They expexted me to wear long dresses despite the fact we lived in such a hot country till i was 15. Now im not allowed to wear the same things because im too old. N my 12 yr old sister gets to wear watever she wants but wen i complain they tell me shes not grown yet so she can wear it. Even wen theyd ask me to change wen i was her age. My lifes just been unfair in that part. I appreciate my parents tho ion hate them....i dont think so. They spent thousands on my sweet 16 just buying me watever i want im so happy about all of that. But i cant deal with all the complaints i get. If i wear an expensive hoodie at home. Dad goes on a rant on how pricey it was n he worked so hard for it blah ** blah. He thinks because hes my dad he gets the respect no matter wat he does. The only thing they ever do for me is spend moni. Im a picky person but my dad doesnt know anything about me. He didnt know my hair was curly until last year....says he nvr noticed. Everytime we my siblings order from Starbucks he asks me if i want one too n every ** time i tell him no ion like Starbucks. Shudnt he know that after ive told him about 70 times. Same with milkshakes anytime i get a Icecream n my sibs get milkshakes he asks me if i want one and ag....i tell him i dont drink milkshakes at all.if someone told me that they didnt like smth id keep that in mind especially if they were my child but he doesn't...few days ago i asked him to drop me off to the arcade n he misunderstood me somehow n told my mom i dont pay attention wen the kids tok its not my fault she didnt tell me clearer. Whos so proud of the fact they dont gaf wen their kids speak. One thing abt him is he doesnt see us as human but just as his kids idk we're not normal to him. Since both my parents work i make dinners everynight. Sometimes it gets too much but theres no one to help me cos while i was taught how to do everything my sister doesnt know ** abt irl skills. She cant do basic tasks at all n my brothers to little to help with knives n all. I tried tell her to please help me cos i was excited abt the roast i was making but me n her got into a fight n she told me its so easy to cook....it isnt easy at all im pretty sure j have adhd or smth but im rlly lazy n can't do task properly i cant go to skool eaither i rarely go to skool (still get good marks tho cos im greatat memorizing) her saying its cooking is easy after not nnowing how to turn a ** kettle on triggered me and i got mad as ** n strated screaming at her but she said "its ur ** job just do it" as a indian gurl with muslim parents (not very religious but they have some beliefs) its my fear to be told that cooking and cleaning is my job so i got rlly emotional n decided i was gonna make it clear tonight that cooking and cleanign isnt my job because im not a maid but their daughter. So wen they got home i told them to set my sister straight or i wasnt gonna do ** around the house. I started crying and got rlly emotional as i told my mom but my dad came in and started shouting abt how the neighbors can me n my sister argue. And to end the convo fast my mom just thay my little sister is goin to cook next week. Ik that wasnt tru but i figured mom was goin to tok to her in private without my dad cos he was getting mad but wen my dad said "yea she'll cook" in joking way n winked at me i screamed at him but how it isnt funny at all and this is important he got mad and all n went to his room and said he wasnt gonna eat and all. They made it seem like my sister was actually gonna cook but i knew she wasnt they cud nvr let her cos she doesnt know ** abt cooking. I just said stop being unrealistic and actually stop the prob, dad came in started getting mad ag i just went to my room. I can nvr win man. Like....ik its nkt a big deal but idk im bout to get my period so im very emotional and all but it ** **. The worst thing is my sister has a victim complex n she actually thinks shes right. She thinks washing the dishes once n making a her bed is so much work. She genuinely thinks that she has it hard. She doesn't. Dinners made laundries done, she goes out every weekend has lenient parents. Wen i secretly downloaded insta at 14 during covid cos i was bored out of my mind they banned my ojone for abt a year....a phone where i wasnt allowed to call or text any frends and was only allowed to watch cartoons on youtube...as a 14 yr old like bruh everyone was watching shows netflix and had tiktok i wasnt even allowed to watch youtube shorts because they said u cudnt make sure the next vud was appropriate. Thru my rebellious era (still goin lol), but during covid everytime i did smth i wasnt 'allowed' my sister wud snitch on me. Therr was a channel called jin hao tem i remember n they did skits...wen i watched them my sister wud snitch that I wasnt watching animated stuff. And id get in mad trouble. All through covid break i woke up early af to help my dad with cars (he's a mechanic) and i was expected to just know everything because 'i saw him work as a kid' so everytime 14 yr old me said 'oh wats a rachet or wats a jack' hed say stop acting and give it to him im called and attention seeker and that im dramatic all the time. But back to topic i woke up early af and did all that while also taking care of our house because my sister wudnt help at all. Wen moving countries i stayed up everynight all night for about 2 weeks helping him finish our kitchen. It was being remade. Not even help him i was doin it on my own he was doin the bathroom plumbing. I was hanging up cupboard doors myself and painting the island myself. Ontop of all of that since im so picky and we were cleaning up the fridges and all wed just eat watever but there was rarely smth i actually cud stomach wed eat some bread or watever for lunch and since this was around Christmas 2022 we had alot of fruitcake which i absolutely hate so rarely had dinner. Lived on aoft drinks just to be told that i nvr helped with the house and i was nvr appreciated for anything. I just act deal with it anymore idk wats wrong with me. Idk wats the point of writing this. Wait another thing my phone was taken away for such simple things so youd imagine if my sister got a bf at 12 shes be like literally grounded for life r8? Yea no nothing happened...they told her to break up with hom but shes still secretly with him pretty sure they know but just dgaf. Maybe i have a victim complex too. Im not allowed to leave home for uni need to study in the one near us (good skool but not where i wanna go) im just writing this cos everyone else ik has it harder than me. They're broke af n their parents dont support them. Monis the most important thing with my family had alot ive nvr had a paying job in my life while all my frends work to survive. Everyones life is harder than mine wayyyyy harder but idk i think mine counts too. Not in the same intensity as theres but 🤷‍♀️