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Smoking for my husband
My husband has a smoking fetish. I don't smoke myself, but at his request I have occasionally smoked a cigarette or two during **. Sometimes more often, sometimes less often. In six months I smoked one pack of Marlboro Reds. Recently, however, I got scared, because the day after smoking I felt bad and I wanted to smoke. I didn't do it, but I'm a little scared now. At the same time, my husband says that he loves it when I smoke, that he loves to kiss me and sniff me when he smells cigarettes from me. But I don't want to get addicted.... And at the same time I love that he worship me as he did after me smoking. Please give me some advice.
May 26
How upset would you be if you got addicted?
I would consider your age and your health history. Also consider your husbands attitude about your smoking. If he is selfishly asking you to do something that bad for you I’d shut him down right away.
In my case my husband told me about his fetish and I smoked for him a few times. He told me that he like carefree, risk taking attitude that smoking women have. I really liked the role play. I told him I was having cravings and I wanted to stop. He was ok with it; he worried about my health and addiction too.
Quite a few years later, In my early 40’s we had to deal with a bunch of stressful ** and honestly it was no fault of him either. I had a couple cigarettes with a coworker and it was so nice, I knew I could get addicted pretty easily.
My husband and I were relaxing one evening talking about all of the stress we were dealing with and he said to me “What if we just stopped worrying about it, what if we just stopped caring and did what we wanted to do” “What is the worst that could happen ?”
I smoked another cigarette the next day at work and pretty much decided to be a smoker. I stopped and bought a pack of Parliaments on the way home.
A couple of nights later I put on an old V-neck t-shirt, and my tightest pair of old yoga pants and went out on the deck with him. I saw the way he looked at me and I said “You know, you are right, I’ve stopped giving a **. Who cares ? - And I’ve started smoking”
It’s been 5 years and people have said **; and I do have a little smokers cough. But it’s fine. I enjoy it and he does too. I’ll probably quit at some point. For now it’s fine.
Ten or so years ago, I was in your exact situation. I started to feel a strong urge to have a cigarette the day after. I didn't but kept smoking for ** for another few days until I just finally gave in to the cravings. I'm now a happy half pack a day smoker. I really do enjoy it and my husband just is gaga over me. I know smoking's bad, but there are many happy trade-offs too. If I had to do it again, I would make exactly the same decision.
Smoking is bad but **, tough decision, but do what's in your heart and what makes you happy, many people truly enjoy smoking while others don't but can't stop. It is addictive and its not cheap. Sorry I'm not much help.