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I had a one night stand with a rockstar.
I had a one night stand with a rockstar... Well. It wasnt supposed to be a one night stand. And to be fair he was.. (IS).. my friend. I will give birth to our son in less than two weeks. I never even told him I was pregnant. And I'm not going to. He drinks too much and parties constantly. His band is well-known. They've done Warped and been on Fuse and toured with MCR. Ive seen how fans act towards him. They get crazy. Im not going to risk someone finding out he's my babys dad and stalking my child. Ive refused to tell anyone who the Dad is except 3 people. My sister knows. His cousin knows. And his vocalist/best friend knows. They all agree and respect my decision not to tell the Dad. His own best friend and vocalist told me he wasnt daddy material. The bad thing is... The vocalist/bestie.. (Lets call him "Brian") has been there for me through this pregnancy more than anyone.We became besties through this too. But now I have feelings for him and he's my babydaddys bestieand oh yeah. Hes married.What do I do?
Grow the ** up, stop going to rock shows, be ready to stay home and be a mother, stop hoping the singer will cheat on his wife or leave her for you and before anything else tell the father about his kid. There's your answers. Stop being so immature and stupid. You think you know everything but you've been dead wrong so far because all your solutions have been the wrong ones. You're not mature enough or fit to be a mother. And stop being so naive and thinking it won't get out who the kids dad is. You've already told enough people (but not the father! He's gonna hate you trying to make decisions for him). You're probably just waiting to manipulate him later. Lying **. And none of us are impressed that you got knocked up from a grade B band that only plays warp tour. Dumb **.
Sounds like you aren't ready to be a mother! You're starting the baby's life with lies, you're making decisions for the father, you were quick enough to run around and tell other people who the father was. Grow up! Can't believe you're actually asking what you should do because you've got a crush on a married man while you're pregnant. You're not fit to be a mother if you don't know the simple answer to that question.
Wow! None of you are a very good friend to your 'baby daddy' at all! He has every right to know he's going to be a father. If you really think that he's not father material, maybe you're right and possibly he'll make arrangements to give you total custody but both he and the child deserve to know the truth. I can guarantee you that one or both will absolutely hate you when they find out, years from now, that you lied. And worse, that you even told other people but not them. You're playing with people's lives not just what you and a handful of friends *think* is best for him. Jeez, what a selfish little **. The kid is probably better off with him than you.
You have to tell him, he has a right to know about the child. You can be honest and say you don't want him involved or people to know he is the dad. If you really are his friend, he'll understand your not a groupie.
Move on..he's married and the father of your baby is not ready to be a dad. Your priorities are must change.you have a child that will be your major concern. Concentrate on that..when a man who is ready to be the father to your child and a good mate to you comes into the picture, you'll know. But stop acting like a groupie..time to grow up.
Join reality like the rest of us.