She has no idea that in a couple of months, I am giving her the "Marriage Ultimatum". It's been 5.5 long years. There have been awesome times and horrible times. We have a beautiful child together. I was recently baptized and I have looked at a lot of things differently. It didn't help that the sermon on the day I was baptized was talking about Cohabitation before marriage. I'm truly trying to get my spiritual life together and walk closer with GOD, not only for myself, but for our relationship, for us, for our child. We had a long discussion/argument after Church that day. It has made me realize one thing, if you don't know you love me enough to marry me, why should I stay? I'm not marrying her b/c we had a child, would have done that several months ago, after we found out she was pregnant. I'm technically not wanting to marry her b/c of what my pastor spoke about, although it is playing a huge role. I want to marry her b/c I love her beyond belief. Even with all her flaws, all our arguing, all our bickering, all our fun times, she is the one for me. I see myself not happy with anyone else. We both have full time jobs, mine more physically demanding, but I come home and do all the housework. It's been like that since early on, but i have gotten semi use to it. It still drives me up the wall, but I have come to expect it. Anywho, it's come to the "ultimatum". She yes, we'll get a dress, say no, I gotta go. I can be just as an effective father with or without her. It sucks, that's not how I wanted things to go, but I have no choice. After 5-6 years, you should know.