I talked to one of my exes the other day and I asked her what it was that caused her to break up with me. I'm not trying to get her back, just trying to figure out if I made any past mistakes to improve in the future. She told me that her problem with me was that I was the kind of guy she wants to marry and that scared her. This just leaves me more confused. If I'm the kind of guy she wants to marry, why the heck am I not dateable? And why is it that a "bad boy" with a shady past and no future is more desirable than me when I'm good looking, genuinely care about the women I date, and have a high powered career with a great future?