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15 & pregnant
Okaay soo i find myself a little weird for posting this but right noow i'm 15 & i just realized i was pregnant. I did a test it came out positive, the thing is i tlked to the father of the child about it & he's 21 soo noow he's all stressed up acting crazy saying how he wants to kill himself or go back to his country. At this point I'm just sitting here don't know what to do. I always wanted to have a little baby but this came out at the wrong time. Most of my friends are telling me to get an abortion but I just don't think I should but at the same time I don't see myself facing my dad telling him I'm pregnant. Right now I live with my parents, aunt and my little brother but all of my sisters live out of the country. My family is really christian, my dad is a pastor & we all were raised in a church, believing in God. Now, I dont even know what to do I'm so scared of what is going to happen next. No matter how much I wanna keep my baby I don't know if I could.
It’s been 11 years since your post… I hope you choose life for that baby and that the years have been rewarding for you.
Honestly, I think you should trust your parents enough to let them in on this one. My husband is a pastor but if any of my kids discover they are pregant a a young age, I want them to feel they can tell me. The opinions of others dont matter. I have been where you are too. Telling mh parents I ws pregnant was so hard but now, 11 yrs later... its like it never happened. It will be the same for you. Trust God. He always knows what He is doing ;)
When my wife was about your age she found out she was pregnant. Her relationship with her boyfriend was not a good one. He was abusive, though she hadn't told anyone. Her family was catholic and she had been taught that abortion was wrong, so she told them she was pregnant and asked for help.
To my wife's surprise, her family told her she had to get an abortion. They told her that having a baby would make it impossible for her to go to college. They told her that her boyfriend was a loser and she would be trapped with him if they had a baby. They told her that no decent guy would want to marry her someday if she already had a kid. They told her they would disown her if she didn't have an abortion.
My wife was shaken to her core to hear the people she trusted tell her to do something that she believed was wrong. But she was scared to be left alone, and decided to get an abortion.
Now she is graduated from college, and we have been married two years. Sometimes we talk about it and she tells me if she had the baby then she never would have met me, and she is happy with me. But she still feels like God abandoned her when she needed help most, and it's hard for her to go to church. She is on good terms with her family, but she doesn't trust them like she use to.
I don't know if there is a "right" decision, but I do know that the most important thing your family and friends can do is be there to support you. To this day, 10 years later, my wife still cries herself to sleep most nights in the month her baby would have been born. I wish I could have met them
Tell that 21 year old to take a 'man the f*** up pill'! If he can't face the consequences of his actions then he shouldn't be having **! You are 6 years younger than him and seem more mature than he does! (then again what do you expect from a man ;) haha) Unfortunately no one can give you the answer but yourself :/ I know it will be horrible but you are just going to have to tell your parents. I can imagine their reaction won't be pleasant but at least they will support you in the decision that you all agree will be best for both you and the child :) Good luck and God bless! x
have the baby. Girl this is one of the most important decicions you have to make, it will impact the rest of your life one way of another. Let me tell you this, you might regret losing your baby, that little piece of you for a guy that u think u love but it's not really shown he loves you too. If he doesn't want to keep the baby, the human been the TWO of you made... Then i would think about it twice before listening to him before listening to the baby inside of you. Now if your father is a pastor then he more than anyone should understand forgiveness and that all human beens make mistakes. Being a mother is one of the most amazing things in life. Tell your family, trust them and think of the future, you could still finish school with help of people and well if u put everything into it. Boyfriends, men can come and go in your life but family, like your baby are there to stay. think about it. make the right choice.