Confronting my wife - need advice
I need advice on how to handle this with my wife - and if you help me I will post links to videos of her with face blurred though.
So, long story short - my wife is a complete prude and a religious fanatic. Over the years our s** life went from good and exploring as teens, to ok average when first married, to seldom and boring after kids, to very infrequent the last few years. And it's always boring s** now. Just pretty much missionary. She treats it like a chore and just does whatever to get me off as quick as possible. She has a lot of hangups like no s** unless we are both clean, like straight out of shower or in the tub. She also hates c** anywhere on her or in her and gets mad unless i c** in tissues or a towel.
She also has caught me masturbating a few times late at night (can you blame me) and got really mad about it. We occasionally, like twice a year have great s** where she is actually into it and will do more and o*****. She also has always said she never masturbated, except briefly when pregnant she said while hormones caused her to be crazy h****. But she did not have more s** with me then, she just waited until I left and then masturbated. She never wanted to talk about that though or ever share that kind of thing together. That was like 12 years ago.
But recently when she was a little drunk she admitted accidentally that she has been masturbating recently, I don't know what recently means though. She said it was with the vibrator which we use togther like twice a year on those occasions where she lightens up. She quickly shut up about it after realizing her mistake and won't talk about it.
So I decided to take matters into my own hands. I got a hidden video camera and decided to put it int her bedroom with some other electronic equipment in the TV cabinet like a router and stuff. Well when the kids are gone to school and I am at work like 2 or 3 times per week I saw her on the video get the vibe out of the side table by the bed. I thought she would m********* in the bedroom of course, but she took it into the bathroom which I thought was weord so I could not see her.
Then I moved the camera to the closet looking into the bathroom and I could see her enter the bathroom with it and go into the closet but below my viewpoint so I figured she was lying down. I then repositioned the camera lower and I now have some videos of her. She lies on her back in the closet legs spread and uses the vibe on her c*** externally and it only takes like 2 minutes for her to o*****. Then she washes off the vibe and replaces it. She does this 2 or 3 times a week but we only have s** once a week when I insist.
I could be p***** I suppose that she is holding out on me, but actually I'm just turned on by it and want to watch her and would love to share this part of our lives together. But I know she is probably way too prudish and has issues. I mean why go in the closet when you are home alone - obviously she is hiding this even from herself in a way like literally keeping it in the closet. And not to mention hypocritical getting mad at me for masturbating right.
But I want to confront her. But in a good way and have her open up to me about it. I need some advice FROM WOMEN. I realize you might not be able to identify with her prudishness but maybe you can think like her from a womans perspective I guess anyway.
By the way, besides the video I was also watching the vibes placement in the drawer and would note its subtle movement on days she used it. I could use that as saying that is how I found out about it. I am VERY observant I just wasn't looking for it before. I tracked it that way for a while before I got the hidden cam I just confirmed it with the videos.
I have thought of several possibilities......
1. I could put a note in the side drawer under the vibe, the next time she uses it she would see it. I woul say I know about it, and glad she is having fun with that and exploring her sexuality and I hope we can maybe include something like that together someday, hoping she would open up to me.
2. I could put a playful little survey in there, like a cosmo survey, asking her some fun and some detailed multiple choice type questions about her "hobby" hoping that was a non confrontational way to address it and she might include me a little by doing the survey and that would also open things up.
3. I thought about putting a new vibe in there gift wrapped and saying something like I thought she might need some variety and i hope she enjoys her new friend, hoping again it might open up conversation.
4. I also could just catch her at it and hope for the best. i know when she tends to do it and can actually set it up to stream the video using my sling box and watch on m mobile and wait until she starts and then sneak in the house and catch her. maybe strip and j*** off too. or just wait of her to come out nude to replace the vibe like she always does and see what happens.