I feel sad that I can't have men friends.

I'm 19 and I think I look kinda pretty. Not in a kind of way I'm self centered or anything, I know there many other girls around me prettier and everything.

But, I kinda have that charisma or something that attracts men and all of them try to get me to be with them. Some of them say it directly and some of them try to be my friends. Well, I feel sad that I don't have any real friends because all of my guy friends are in fact in love with me, so, if I say to them that I don't like them, they will no longer be my friends. And I don't know what to do or how to act.

And I feel stupid and slutty just because they all like me. It's like I'm building an army of men who like me and if I choose one of them, the others will be gone and I don't want them to be gone.

I don't know, maybe I am self centered and arrogant and everything that goes with it. I want to have them as friends, but I don't want them to be in love with me.

This is all so stupid, I don't know if you understand me, it's just easier when I said it like this.

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  • Pick out your cutest BFF and get really close to her romantically. Learning to love another woman is the best and it may help you to ground yourself.

  • Guy friends are way better, I'm in the same boat, it sucks men can never really be your friends cause as soon as you're single they all come around asking...I also get wanting not to have a bf because losing the attention from the other guys is hard, especially since the one you pick will end up ignoring you and then you'll wonder why you ever gave up being single.

  • At least you realize it, to a point. One of my female friends, very pretty, cute, and friendly, has tons..tons of guy friends, and thinks few, if any, want her "like that"..They message her at all hours, are always inviting her out or to join them somewhere (usually alone), met one for a supposed business meeting that turned out to be a hotel..I've told her a thousand times..Don't be this gullible! You look like easy prey. And she does.

    Her thing is "not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings", so, the guys just keep piling, and lining, up. And most just want to get into her pants for an extended time.Most, too, since they know she and I spent a lot of time together, have asked me "how is she in bed?", presuming I've nailed her.

    If you cut off guys and only choose one, that's your right. And if the rest leave, there's your proof.

  • Whether you realize it or not, you're leading all of them on. Be honest about your real feelings, or you will end up hurting a lot of people and yourself too.

  • I realize that completely. I feel sorry about all of that, but the only friends I can really count on are male friends because I had a bad experience with girl friends. And I'm scared I'm gonna lose all my friends if I tell them openly that I'm not interested. I just don't know how to manage that and that they don't just stop communicating with me.

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